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I have a question for anyone that could be of assistance. We have been contacted about a possible newborn up for adoption. The baby is due today. LOL We have had contact with our agency since June on this child, and they have planned on us taking this child. We met the bmom on August 21 and she says that she wants the child to be placed with us. The bmom is under the age of 18 and is placed in a juv probation setting. I was wondering what kind of rights she has as a bmom under the age of 18? She turns 18 in October. If anyone could help me understand this I would greatly appreciate it.
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I haven't adopted in a situation as you are going through; but I would strongly advise you to listen to your agency, rather than the county part of this. I'm going to guess that the 'county' is the CPS/DCFS/DCF section, due to her being involved with the Juvenile section? If so, they may not have the best info on what should be done.
Your agency, (usually) is going to be more familiar with the legalities of this. If not, hire an adoption attorney (which you'd end up doing anyway) to review anything. Christie S. (above poster) speaks from the heart and has been living this situation for so long. It bears listening to her words of wisdom, I believe.
Best of luck to you....
Sincerely,
Linny
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Thank you Linny and stillwaiting. I pray that something good comes out of the nightmare we have been living - and I come here to help others. If I can save even one life from this then something positive will have resulted from my trials. It helps a great deal to hear you understand and back me.
Well the bmom was due last saturday and well she hasnt had the baby yet. It is 9/17 today and they said if she does not have the baby by 9/20 they are going to induce at 6:45am that day, the bmom contacted us on friday and asked if we could come down and visit with her on monday. Just trying to guard my heart so I dont really get hurt. I am trying to find out why CYS is going to step in and take the baby I dont understand and my agency has never done a newborn adoption before. Hope to have good news tomorrow!
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Well lil one was born on 9/20/06, we were supposed to go to the hospital on 9/21/06 to meet our ds and the bmom called and said she wanted another nite with her boy. Then CYS stepped in and took the child. Even after she promised us that the child was coming with us she had other plans. I am really hurt that she lied to us and then would not even tell us. We found out from CYS that she had left the hospital and that her son went to a foster home. Is really hurting!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:grr:
wants2shareluv - I am sooooo sorry I don't even know what to say. I'm guessing you were not a licensed fostercare caregiver and that is why the child went into another foster home. I would recommend you speak with the foster worker and ask if they plan on doing a TPR. If they do then the baby will become available for adoption after the TPR is completed. Most likely if the couple who has him now has already completed all of the paperwork for adoption then they would be the ones allowed to adopt. BUT there are many foster homes that take in newborns under these conditions just until an adoption can be completed - and that may also be the case. Have you had a homestudy completed? All of the paperwork can actually be done very quickly with the right attorney and enough money (sad to say). I'm sure you are heartbroken and may not feel like you can go on and do all of this at this point. But please know we are here for you. Hugs and prayers for you,Christie S. Please keep us posted. I know you are heartbroken
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I am SO SORRY for what you are going through. I agree that this does not make sense. I would not let this go. Have you tried contacting Children's Services to find out more?????????? Could this be about Children's Services getting paid $$$ for every child they place into foster care???????? Hmmm. Josie
Good question Josie - which also reminds me: wants2shareluv - many states have foster care contracts where emergency foster care placement can be done WHILE the temporary fostercare parents are in the process of completing the fostercare requirements. There is a special application to be completed and then paperwork, etc. - but a lot of it coincides directly with pre-adoptive placement (such as the homestudy). So you might could do both. Please don't give up. Even if this placement does not work out - and it seems overwhelming - there is a sweet child out there for you which can fill your heart. Let us know how you are and if there is anything we can do. Again, I'm so sorry. Christie S.
They said that the reason they didnt place him with us is because we were not with their agency. We are with a different agency. Besides the whole $ thing! If they would place him with us then the county would not be getting the $ for him, my agency would be. Its all about POLITICS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This sucks!!! I just hope that he is in a good home!!!
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We are an approved adoptive home! We adopted our dd in Nov of last yr from the same county that this baby was born into. We did visits with the bmom in probation and she said that she wanted the baby placed with us. THen when it came down to it, the bmom said that she never said anything to us about putting the baby up for adoption, and that she never said that she wanted the baby to come with us. I am so frustrated right now!!!!:grr: