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:eek: I just wanna scream RED ALERT!, WARNING!, CAUTION!!, PROCEED...WITH...CAUTION!!!!!
I was just reading on another subject thread about another 1st contact and how the child found the birthmom. They have only spoken, not yet had a f2f, and the birthmom is all in a tizzy and excited and elated and virtually flying on cloud 9 and all that!!!! And yet the child has virtually shut down, cold. And birthmom is thinkin that all she has to do is wait and in a few days everything will be all right!!! IT'S NOT!!! And it's all I can do to not jump right in there and scream!!!
OK, so I sound a little "tainted" huh?! I AM!! I want to drive the mere 4 hours to my daughter and throw my arms around her and hug her and take away all the painful events she's had this past year and a half since she found me, none of which have anything to do with me, thank God!, but it sucks that right after she found me, this string of awful events started and I heard about them, and could feel her pain from them, but could do nothing for her!! And I'm sure because of them, they were so much for her to deal with that she couldn't possibly think about a reunion!! IT'S NOT FAIR!!!
My family at home thinks I put too much time into trying to keep the lines open with her. That I'm just gonna get really hurt. I don't know...I'm just really beating my head on that wall, ya know.....
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I know how you feel. I was reunited with my daughter when she was 12. She was having a hard time dealing with the adoption and her adoptive mom thought that maybe it would help her to meet her birth parents. It has been a bumpy 8 years! She doesn't talk to me for months, but I don't give up.