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I am in hopes to find some friends, that are also have choosen adoption for there baby and maybe we can talk, I am alone and I need some friends.
Welcome Upcomingmom!!! We are certainly glad your here, you will find lots of "experienced" birthmoms here in both open and closed adoptions. PLease feel free to ask any questions or just use us to lean on!
Again, Welcome:cheer:
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I am scared and nervous but I know what I am doing is the right thing, just a very hard thing, I do need friends in time like this and without any support makes it hard so I will use this board for support.
Welcome and as Michelle said feel free to ask any questions or use us as support.
Also as a Community Moderator here, I just wanted to let you know that should anyone try to solicit you to adopt your baby, that is if anyone asks or tries to get you to place your baby with them from the boards here then please let me or one of the other Community Moderators (Crick, taramayrn, DianeScraps, SchmennaLeigh, MicheleB or ajjhmf) know so we can take care of it.
Soliciting or trying to get you to place your baby with them is not allowed here so make sure to let us know if that should happen.
Also feel free as I said above to ask any questions or to send me a PM (Private Message) if you have any concerns, questions or just want to talk.
We're all here to help and support in any way we can.
Tigger27 (Anne)
That is why I joined so I would not be harrassed, I had one person to just PM and asked me do I want to talk, she probably was only being nice so i did not worry about it.
I am really just do not know how to feel at this point, I have been in contact with a lovely family for three mths. but I am not employed and the strain of no money coming in is hard and with a private adoption, this family stated that they can only help me with some things and birthmom expence was not allowed so I was hoping maybe some one could answer that, the Adoptive family is scared I will change my mind but I WILL NOT and that is a promise but how do I make it with no help, I went to the DHS and I have medical and foodstamps but thats all I get. Thanks
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[FONT="Century Gothic"]Each state is different. So I really cannot help with that. Sorry.
Are you going to have an open adoption? How much longer do you have?
Different feelings is common. I went back and forth everyday and still did when the agency worker came to the hospital with profiles for me to look at.[/FONT]
Hi, I'm an "old" bmom. My firstborn is now 34 and we've been in reunion for a year.
This is a good place for support, so welcome.
About your specific physical concerns, as the other posters say, every state is different. In PA, pregnant women get priority for public housing. (Rent is by ability to pay.) You might also check with private or church groups like Birthright or Catholic Charities who are against abortion and try to help women carrying babies to term.
Feel free to vent your fears, etc, and to share your joys. Again, welcome to the community.
Well I am here and really just here...if there is any other mom on here that is pregnant and placeing please email me, I just would like to know, I am not said as I love the family I choose but I asked myself, what all needs to take place the date of delivery. Thanks
upcomingmom
I am not said as I love the family I choose but I asked myself, what all needs to take place the date of delivery. Thanks
First of all take as much time as you can alone with the baby. This is your time to be Mom. Embrace it. Remember, you cannot relinquished what you have not claimed. You need to claim your baby as your own before you can give that to the adoptive mom.
If you have other supports I highly suggest you have them in the delivery room with you instead of the adopting parents. Giving birth is an extremely intimate experience and, honestly, the adopting parents are virtual strangers at this point. Be the first one to hold your baby. You are all he/she knows. The baby will need you at that point. Gently transition the baby from you.
I am a birthmom in an open adoption and I am also an open adoption educator. Please feel free to ask me anything. PM me if you want.
BTW, are you with an agency? How did you find the adopting parents?
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I located her on ParentProfiles.com.
I do not want to Bond with the baby. There is a HUGE reason why also.
I want to deliver and say love ya....Bye
Upcoming - As a birthmom in a closed adoption I too thought I was going to say just say "love you, bye". When I first saw her I had a great desire to hold her, count her fingers and toes. I found myself holding her every chance I could get and I would tell her how much I love her.
Even though I never expected to hold her like I did, I'm glad I did. That time in the hospital has been a memory I have cherished all of these years.
My daughter being adopted and raised by someone else is the most painful experience I've ever faced in life- even after 30 years, if I could do it all over I would make certain adoption was not a part of my or my daughter's life ...... I would be willing to talk to you mire about this if you want - best to you- Fallen Child
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PS- I never held my child after she was born- she was adopted immediately rightfrom the womb- this procedure did not prevent any pain, it only created more regret in that I never did get to hold my baby annd sadly, never will - she is 30 years old now, and can never again be the infant she once was ... the infant I once lost inadoption- best FC