I am here for advice please...

Upcoming, Whether you were placing or not, how would you buy things for your home? How would you take care of your animals? It isnt the responsibility of the adoptive parents to take care of those things for you, In the future I would refrain from asking for help in those areas, you wouldnt want it to cause your relationship to be strained, would you? I would also think that it would be illegal for them to give you money for your animals or for just ordinary household things you want, wouldnt you rather they kept that money and spent it on your baby??

Ditto.Most states have specific laws stating what you can and can't ask for; you can look up your own state's information at child welfare under the state statute search. Almost all states specify that monies exchanged are to be for something pregnancy/medical related. Animals don't qualify; neither do car payments, tuition and a long list of things that other expectant moms wonder about. That said, Michelle brings up the great points that you need to learn how to take care of yourself for after the child is born whether you will place or not. The adoptive parents won't be taking care of you once the child arrives.Please look up the laws that are relevant to your state and go from there. Beyond that, meet with someone in your local state assistance office to find out what resources are available to you and what you can do, now, to help you get ready to get on your feet, then.

Upcomming - I'm pretty sure it isn't legal for the soon-to-be-adoptive parents to be giving you money for your house and animals. The Agency I went through paid for my medical expenses and I was given a small allowance for Maternity Clothes and that was it. I'm sure the state you are in has some kind of program to help you out. Why are you changing doctors?

I am a birthmother, from the 1960s. We didn't get money directly from the PAPs. It was a private adoption, they did pay for both lawyers, the hospital, doctor and all any medicines if needed. My grandparents supported me, I was 15. The problem with asking for money, you could then feel you "owe" them the baby if for any reason you changed your mind. You can get food stamps, medical, wic.. live at home with your folks if you can't work.

Well I am not sure what to do, I get WIC and FOOD STAMPS and My Amom pays my cable and Lights and Internet, home phone and plus she bought me a cell phone to use, but I am 23 wks and I cant work and my mom is ILL and I need wahing powders and personal Hygiene Items and things for my cats like food so I am not sure what I am suppost to do here. Thanks and take care~!

Sometimes you can ask a church to help you or another organization. But asking adoptive parents is not appropriate. Besides they are already doing a lot financially for you so try to find another way to get financial help. Sorry about your mom.

:thanks: For your advice~ I really just want to DIE and this would all be over! I feel like life can not get no worse.