How do I tell my kids in 2 days about bro.?

First off - Congrats on your upcoming reunion!!!! How fantastic!!! You must be thrilled to have made contact!!! This is a very exciting time for you - I wish you all the best on your reunion journey! As for how to tell you other children...I have a 13yo daughter so this is how I told her about her older sister...BD had sent me a picture which I printed out and asked daughter to bring up from basement for me...which of course gave her sometime to look at it...when she brought it to me she asked who it was and commented that it looked like someone in the family...I told her that she was related in fact she was her older sister. After a few puzzling looks I explained that BD 22 and in college and that she has her own family that raised her. I knew she having a tough time grasping things so I simply said...Mom was alive and had a life for 28 years before you came along. That seemed to answer most questions :) I did ask her not to tell her friends, knowing full well she would, but I explained that this is something very personal and very private and how I would appreciate her keeping it to herself. We also spoke about how we live in a VERY small town in which gosip travels at light-speed and that I didn't want to be the subject of dinner conversations all over town - which she did understand. I think the best advise I can give you is be direct, be honest, go light on the details until their older....maybe just mention it over dinner tomorrownight, that will give you a chance to have everyone together and give you time to address all their questions. Good Luck and feel free to PM me! C.

I think you just answered your question. Be truthful and only give enough details that they can understand. I am so excited for you!! I hope your reunion is absolutely wonderful!!

Congratulations on your upcoming reunion!! I too, was faced with this dilemna 2 years ago when my bson contacted me and we arranged for him to visit at my house. My daughter was only 9 years old at the time. Yikes! But I just told her the truth about what had happened when I was 16 years old and she totally accepted it. Of course she had a lot of questions which I answered completely honestly. She was a little shocked to say the least but now she loves having a big brother! Kids appreciate and want honesty especially from their parents so I would suggest that you be totally upfront with your children. It's worth it in the long run. Good Luck to you!! God Bless.:flowergift:

I told my son when he was 14 or 15 (He immediately told his younger sister. She was 12 or 13) I was trying to explain why I felt the way I did about pre-marital sex - among other things. (His answer - that was you, this is me, sigh.) I was matter of fact about it and both kids took it that way. Both were present at my first f2f last year and have developed their own relationship with their brother. I wasn't faced with the immediacy that you are. I'm with the others though. Be upfront with them; share briefly and be open to their questions.

I am assuming that you stress to your kids about waiting until they are older to have sex.. That you may even be really strict about it? I am. Tell your daughter that the reason you stress so much about waiting, the reason being, you didn't wait, you were too young and ended up giving up your first child for adoption. That you are now reuntied and want to much to see him. He wants to meet his sister and little brother. But mostly, he wants to meet his first mom. Tell you are excited about finding him, sad you had to give him up. I told my kids when they were 8 & 10.. we didn't find until bson was 33. So everyone is now, 42, 41, 39... I have old kids.. But I am still young...:cheer: I am 58.

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