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IMO, raising an adopted child is no harder or easier than a bio child - they are just your child. I have three kids, 2 are bio, 1 is adopted. Each child has issues of their own. Adoption is awesome, but my guess is you are going to get that answer here... :p

Adoption is the most awesome experience! I have one bio son and one adopted son. I love both the same. As all parents with children we all have different issues with them. Thats called having children. Every one has different personnalities and it doesn't matter if they are bio or adopted they will all have personnalites of their own. The above post said it all. You need more info please feel free to pm me. Michelle

Adoption is awesome, and we are so blessed to have a wonderful, healthy, beautiful son through adoption. Our families agree -- and if you could see the photo of my mother and DH's parents with our son, smiles from ear to ear on everyone, you would understand. I cannot imagine that I would raise my son any differently than if he were my bio son, except for discussions about adoption, of course. He still goes to the doctor for shots, he gets fevers, has milestones etc. just like a bio child, and we celebrate each and every one. The fact that he is adopted makes absolutely no difference -- it is just the way our family was formed.

Having a child, whether they come to you biologically or through adoption, is a truly humbling and awe inspiring experience. There is alot of joy to be had, and a lot of sorrow!Our first adoption was a bit of a surprise in that our child came to us with no identified issues and we were too naive to know what we were getting into. There have been many hurtful things, but also many wonderful apects as well. This has been true of all of our adoptions and also with our bio child, just in varying degrees. It isn't a matter of harder or easier raising an adopted child or bio child. The issue is that ALL children are individuals and while you love all of your children you may have to tailor your parenting a bit to fit the needs of each one. Bio and adopted kids each need individually specific things from their parents, along with all the general things that all children need like love, shelter, food, etc. We have children who were neglected, born drug addicted, etc. so the things we do with each one may differ due to their weaknesses and strengths, but the love is the same. It's like asking if boys or girls are easier to parent. Some swear that boys are easier, some swear that girls are. (I can only imagine that those who believe girls are easier must not have any who've reached puberty?? But I digress....) The fact is that it isn't easier/harder, just different. As I said above, each child is an individual! LOLI felt so excited while we were waiting to adopt each of our children. Never knowing if we would be the family chosen to parent the particular child we were waiting to hear about, the anxiety and all the emotions were overwhelming. Then, when we were notified that we were the family selected to be the adoptive family we were overwhelmed with joy...and trepidation! You never know what will happen in the future so there is that feeling of standing at the edge of a cliff gazing at the awesome view, not knowing what will happen when you take that first step. Will the ground crumble under you, will there will be an easy trail to follow, will the trail be nothing but thorns and rocks? You just don't know.I felt the same way when I came home from the hospital with our one bio child. Yikes! What is going to happen now? I knew that I won't ever be the same...I have the responsibility for a little life for the rest of MY life...will I do a good job...will this be more than I can handle...??It was very much the same for both the bio and the adopted! LOL I thought that adoption would be easier...it isn't. Not at all. There are so many complexities that are never even alluded to in the movies or books! Bio family and adopted family contact, foster family contact, siblings who may reside with bio family, be adopted by others, be in foster care or residential treatment, and on and on. I don't know if I've answered what it is like to be a family made of bio and adopted kids, but it isn't different than any family, IMO. You just ARE. We are a family and don't really think about the "adoption" aspect unless someone asks us. We do discuss our children's bio families, but that's just normal for us - like discussing any relatives - so I don't see it as a big deal. I suppose we just incorporated the needs of our kids to discuss and know about their bio families into our family and didn't contemplate overly much about it. It just is.

Having a child, bio or adopted, is the one most amazing experience a person could hope for in life. We have two bio boys and one adopted daughter and there is no difference in how we feel about any one of them. Both of our sons have a birth story unique to them as our daughter's birth story is unique to her. When I think back to each of their births there are different things I remember but the emotion is the same with all three. Being a parent is a wonderful gift no matter how it comes to you!

I couldn't love my boys more if I had given birth to them myself. I don't think raising them would be any different than if I were raising bio children either. As for the feeling of having adopted...I was so happy I cried when the judge declared him legally adopted. BUT, it is always in the back of my mind that 2 other families had to be torn apart in order for mine to be whole. For this reason, adoption is a very humbling experience for me. I feel very blessed to have been given such wonderful gifts in my life.