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This time it seemed like we were so much closer. I had guarded my heart. We got to the hospital and spent 4 hours with both parents and the baby. It was so comfortable and wonderful. We left that night floating on a cloud. The next morning we were told that the dad was having a hard time but the mom was going to talk to him. We were waiting at our friends' house for the phone to ring. We got a call a few hours later telling us to go home and that he wasn't going to change his mind. The mother has spent 9 months saying goodbye to this baby. They are completely not prepared for a little one. They have 6 other kids at home who didn't even know she was pregnant. She is devastated. I know right now that we are on the right path and that we'll be ok. I am very worried about her and the baby. It came as a total shock to us and to her.
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My heart goes out to you...Honestly you can never guard your heart when it comes to a child. I know that personally. As hard as you try its impossible. The pain is just unending. I am in a contested adoption. The minute we found out the birth mom chose us we were walking on clouds. Fear was always on my mind ..what if?? With adoption you just never know what might happen and that is the risk you take in order to hopefully one day adopt a child as your very own. Once I held that angel in my arms -my heart instantly melted -years of longing for a child....was finally over. But deep inside I felt this was like a dream this cannot be real only because we had waited so long. Now the birth father has wavered in his decisioin and still we have no idea what will happen. You have to be extremely strong...and honestly I am the most emotional person...but I keep my faith in God and pray through Him...Prayer is what you need and remember Through God all things are possible. I hope your little angel will come to you soon..Its only normal to feel so much pain and hurt you wanted this so badly...believe me I know. You will be in my prayers...:flowergift:
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I know that God and my faith is the only real answer. I believe that he has a plan for us - we just have to wait for his timing - which is always perfect!
I also have two friend adopting right now. One from Guatamala - hers is home now. And one from Korea - they picked her up today. Yeah! They both had to wait a long time and go through many ups and downs.
Both domestic and international have pros and cons. Right away we felt led to do domestic and we will stick with it. This journey has just been long and hard. You have to be strong.
It helps to hear others stories. Thanks!
People who have children easily do not know the trials and tribulations of trying to adopt. The waiting is agony and just when you think that everything is going to be fine, you have the period of time where you do not know whether the adoption will succeed or fail. We had a couple of opportunities to fall through and we took a HUGE risk and traveled to CA 12 hours after a phone call saying that we could get a baby boy. The Birthmom had NOT signed the papers yet so it was touch and go for awhile. Then, she signed and everything was wonderful! We were on such a high!!! Then, we got home and found out the the Birthfather was raising heck in CA and he wanted to contest. Our world was turned upside down in a day. Now, we are fighting to keep our baby with us. So far, we are doing well - I consider myself very lucky at this point. I know that it is hard - but I truly believe that GOD has children picked out for all of us. And when it is time, He will open all doors so that you can be the wonderful parents you were meant to be. I will pray that your child finds you soon. God Bless!
What did people do before the internet? Honestly, I don't know what I would do without being able to sit down and read everyone's stories. My adoption friends online have really been great. And knowing that other people are praying for us has been amazing. I know that I often shed a few tears and say quick prayers for people while I'm reading. Someone asked me today about adoption and I was able to tell my story without crying! I get a gold star for today.
Yeah! I'm so glad you were able to share without crying! It is a victory!
Actually, I cried again today. I had to call my friend and congratulate her on her new adopted baby girl. I knew I had to do it - but it was a hard phone call. They had been waiting much longer than us - so I am very happy for her. We have to rejoice with others!
My husband cried when I told him they brought their baby home. He is still struggling.
Lisa
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Too bad there isn't a "for men only" forum. I think that men get left out a lot - birth fathers and adoptive fathers. I know my husband likes it when I tell him stories that I have read on here. He hasn't read all the books that I have but he does read some. Sometimes he'll read articles online at work. I have a couple of friends that I met at our first agency. We get together for dinner sometimes. It's great to have some face-to-face support, too.
My friend had her baby today, on my b-day. I am so happy for her, but it pains me to go to the hospital to see her. I said I will go tomorrow, it was just to hard today. I felt some hope from the help of JFisk. I pray that our forever child is coming soon, but how do you love the way you did when you had your first adopted child. We are all in this together, I love you all so much and praying for you. Oh my i took all of your concerns to the state with me yesterday. This adoption business is amazing, but i think they listened yesterday.
How is everyone doing? The wait continues.
We moved so I am busy unpacking boxes. At least that is keeping me busy for the moment.
I called our agency last week and all they said is they are counseling several birthmoms who are due in May, June, and July...that seems so far away!
I am planning visit my friend who recently adopted. I had to wait about two weeks to be ready. I know it will still be hard for me - but I need to be a good friend. She knows how hard the waiting is too.
Hang in there girls! Praying for good things in our future!
Lisa
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I'm hanging in here. Trying to keep busy. I went to the library to get another baby name book. I am feeling really optimistic. I had a couple of really down down days but now I'm feeling like we're going to get a call soon. I don't know what it is but I know it's going to be good. I've just got to hang onto that. I keep praying that it will be soon. I'll be thrilled if it's before my birthday which is the first day of spring. It sure has been a long dark winter!
:love: This morning our social worker called us. She said she had just gotten done with a court hearing. I didn't realize what she was telling me. She was calling to tell me that we're getting a baby girl tomorrow and that all the termination papers are signed and everything. Our appointment is at 1:00 tomorrow to sign the papers and then we can go pick her up and bring her home. We have been waiting for 20 months and now our dream is about to come true!:banana: :banana: :banana:
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