How do you see your future relationship with your birthchild?

I hope that my son will see as influencial people in his life, another set of people who love him. I hope he is relaxed and comfortable around us. I do hope for not only a one on one relationship with my son, but also with his parents. I expect that we will see each other either about the same or more, based on what T prefers, as the years go one.

I would never not want J&D involved.I hope for a respectful, loving relationship with the Munchkin.

I would assume that her mom will always be involved, she is her mom! I'm not sure why there should be less and less contact during pre-teen and teen years, but if that is what A needed for her own health and happiness then I would support it. However, if it was just her Mom's decision without any real reasoning behind it, I would be very hurt. I hope that A knows she is loved by both me and her Mom.

I'm so glad that this question was asked and I'm so glad that I peeked in over here and saw it today. I've been trying to think of a way to ask this question myself but couldn't think of how to start the thread...I was making it way too complicated :) I have tears of relief right now as I read that you all would want the amom to continue to be involved even after the child is of age. I put a lot into our open adoption...as you all know, it's work! I put a lot of thought, communication, time, love, friendship, etc. into our open adoption on a daily basis. For the last week, for no apparent reason at all, I have been nervous that 'what if' they don't want me involved later on. What if I am left out? I'm sure I would feel hurt and rejected. It's just nice to hear that you all still see the amom as a part of the triad even after the child is older and she's not necessarily needed for communication/visits anymore. Going to dry my tears and put my feeling back in check. Thank you all and I look forward to reading more responses to this question.

Well, my DD is a teenager, and that does play a role in why I don't have direct contact right now, but for those of you who are familiar with my story, you know that it is more of a reunion scenario with DD, as I have not had contact since she was a young child. But her a-mom and I keep in touch, and since I have always felt warmly towards her, I cannot imagine not having a relationship that included her in the future, no matter what age and I told her as such. When DD decides that she is ready for contact I would hope we can have an honest and respectful and loving relationship with eachother, especially given that she will be at the very least close to adulthood when that time comes. If it does end up that we have contact while she still is a teen, (and that is a bridge to be crossed when her a-mom and DD feel it is the right time) I would most definitely want her a-mom to be an intrigal part of that as a support system to DD (and me, LOL!!!)

I fully expect (by golly, she better be! She's my best friend!) S to be totally involved until the end of time (I mean that...)Of course...over the last 11 years, we've really built a friendship that is amazing...and that will continue, regardless.. :D