I'm so scared

I am sorry you are going through this. Can you ask your Dad if you can go to a counselor? Maybe you can find one on your own if you're not comfortable asking your parents.I think counseling would be a good idea. It's best to find one that isn't going to push you in either direction regarding making parenting choices for your child. Someone who can allow you to make the decision and will support you through it, no matter what.Hang in there. There are several ladies here who have been where you are now and can offer their opinions.

I was seventeen when I became pregnant with my first. My parents FREAKED OUT and told me to get an abortion or "give it to the state" because "it would be better off". They thought there was NO way I could be a good mom at that age. My dad wouldn't talk about it AT ALL and would leave the room if it came up. They were devastated and thought I had thrown my life away. I was adamant that I was going to parent. I felt alone because it was not an "allowed topic". I couldn't even bring myself to ask my mom about things like labor/delivery so I bought books to learn from. When I did go into labor around midnight, my mom went back to sleep and told me to wait until morning. (as if I had a choice!) I ended up getting her up at 4am...I was in full-blown labor and scared to death. She got mad, but took me to the hospital. She left while I was in labor (I was 7cm when we got there) but came back two hours later when I was ready to deliver. Then something happened that I never expected. The minute my mom saw my child, she was in love. She rushed to buy gifts her new grandbaby. My dad showed up that night, carrying flowers and a small bear for me. I didn't know what to say and he stood there, staring at my daughter for the longest time. He said, "Well, it wouldn't be right to leave you here alone, and I had to come to town anyway, so..." and of course I'm bawling, and he left. I opened the card on the flowers after he left and it was blank and he had written, "Thank you. With all my love, Dad" My parents LOVE my daughter. I think they were scared for me and upset, but in the end, they came around. I still have my dried flowers and my card, btw. I wanted to add that I took full responsibility for parenting my daughter. I did not expect my parents to do any of that for me. Although I did live at home her first year, I was the one that provided for my daughter and took care of her. I worked, went to college at night and I think that that helped my parents see that I could be a mother AND do something with my life. Get counseling, keep going to your doctor, talk to your parents as much as you can (show them you are capable of takng responsibility no matter what you plan to do), find any resources available like Medicaid, WIC, etc., do what feels RIGHT for you and I'm a firm believer that if you do what's right for you (NOT what's right for anyone else!) it will be okay and work out in the end. PM me if you'd like.

As the mother of a 17-year old, I can tell you that, yes, your mom loves you. Of course she is going to be angry for a while. You cannot expect her to just get over this immediately. But there are things you can do to help. You need to do what she asks of you right now(except the abortion). This will be good to give yourself some time to think about what you want (and leave the guy alone). He is only going to confuse you right now and definitely anger your mother more. You can talk to him once things have calmed down and you know what you want to do. My sister was in your spot, and she made it through. She is now very close to my mother. If you need someone to talk to you can e-mail me at chempossible08@yahoo.com. Regardless, please do check into getting some counseling. It is really helpful in times like this.

I am sure your mom loves you very much, and only wants the best for you. Right now, it may seem like she is so angry, but in time hopefully everything will work out. Please, take your time and look over your options of parenting or adoption. This forum is a good place to come and have views and information from all sides of the adoption plan. I am an adoptive mom who has a beautiful 2 year old boy..I cannot express enough how our little angel filled our hole in our hearts!!! He is our everything our world. We were so blessed in being chosen to be adoptive parents. We still communicate with the birth mom and she is just our guardian angel-who has blessed us more then words can say!! Give your mom some time, its probably just a shock for her. Look around on the different boards, and just follow your heart you will know what is best for your baby. In whatever choice you make I hope you will find peace. Prayer always helps...God Bless

Welcome to the forums. I'm sorry your mom isn't being supportive right now. I hope that she just needs some time to come to terms with the fact that her 17 year old daughter is pregnant. I'm glad your dad seems supportive right off the bat. I think talking to him about counselling is a great idea.

Soscared. Sending my support to you. I was once too pregnant at 17. First of all, the emotions of everyone in your family (meaning you, your mom, your dad) need to settle down a little bit. I would imagine they will, your mom just needs to process this a little while. I am sure it comes as a shocker to moms. However, that does not mean she does not love you and will not support you. It just takes getting past the emotion to get to that phase. At the present, try to relax, if you can. It is not good for anyone to have you in emotional uproar right now. Perhaps, things will settle down a bit and you can talk to your parents about counseling. I would recommend you NOT get your counseling from an adoption service provider, as their business is to place babies for adoption. Perhaps there is a therapist you can talk to as a family as you start to work through this. If you choose that adoption is the right choice for you and your child, then I would imagine an adoption agency will be helpful. Feel free to PM me anytime. Like I said - I was there myself, and it was anything but pleasant. My parents "claimed" to be supportive, but their passive aggressive crap was worse than lack of support. I would be willing to be your "shoulder" whatever you should need. Best of luck to you!

I think the question here is to figure out what YOU want to do from this point on. I got pg at 18 unexpectedly and it completely devastated my parents. At that time I was a senior in highschool & had a full scholarship to college, but instead I graduated highschool and got married. I agree with the other posters that you should find a therapist of some sort to discuss this with. Can you talk to your school guidance counselor? Understand that your mother still loves you and is just worried about you & the life she had planned for you. We all have detours in our life from the way we had 'planned' things.. If you decide that this is not a time in your life that you can raise the child yourself, adoption is always a wonderful option! But you should never feel pressured into that or abortion!! If you want to have the baby, you can find a way to do it. If you need to talk feel free to PM me anytime. I think alot of us have been there done that!

I am so sorry you are going through this esp so young and your mom is not supportive at all, I'm in that situation. I'm being open here, You have to decide what you want to do. You say you don't want to have an abortion, I understand. I don't know how it works in your state when you are underage. Reguardless of what you eventually decide to do, you need prenatal care which I'm sure you already know. Hopefully your mom will eventually come to terms with this, but for right now it's about what you want to do. You can come here for support reguardless of what you decide to do, I'll help you any way I can.

it is okay your parents will comearoun my friend got pregnant when she was sixteen her mom was supportive of her she had him nicholas angel aug 15th 2006 he is now a happy health one year old and she does take care of him by herself with help from family so just make the right choice that is best for you