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We had a pretty open and good relationship with our FD's mom and partner. We met with her outside of State office and worked out special vistitation, invited them to birthday parties and other functions in FD's life. She was working on reuinfication, but kept missing the boat on what she needed to get done. She relinquished rights prior to termination, saying she wanted her to be adopted by us. We spoke with a mediator to work out contact and openess, DH and I were not on the same page, me wanting more openess and him less, but agreed to terms knowing we could always do more. Then bio mom never called the mediator back after she called to let her know we had an agreement that she needed to go over. We have tried for 4 months now, and nothing.
I guess I should be glad there will be no legal obligation, but it makes me sad that she has just dropped out of our daughters life. She was all about fighting to get her back, wanting openess...then nothing. I really wanted to let her know how much she means to us.
I am not sure how I should be feeling, or how to explain this when it comes up later in life.
I guess everything happens for a reason, and some day maybe she can be a part of our lives, I know that our daughter would want that.
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She may be just be feeling overwhelmed and defeated now, unable to deal with contact? If there is a way to get any message to her and it is how you feel, it might be nice to let her know that you understand and that it will never be too late in your mind to at least try contact again. That way, if time goes by she won't hesitate out of that fear.
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