Gossipy girls hurt my feelings

Well, first of all, welcome! As far as you not looking like anyone in your family. I know alot of kids that look nothing like their bio parents. That is your family, don't let anyone make you feel any different. Sometimes high school girls are just mean.

One thing said alot to me by girls and even a teacher was my brother is a real son of our parents and I'm not. My mom still comes up to my room at night to kiss me and if that's not real, what is? My brother is 5 yrs older than me and he gets going when somebody says stuff about me not being real son. My brother is Cody and he is the best brother God ever put on earth. He took me to dinner last nite just us two and that was real. People don't think when they make stupid comments, do they?

No, they don't think. I am shocked that your teacher said those things. You'd think they'd be better educated... Your family IS your REAL family. don't believe anyone who tells you differently. Biology does not a make a family. If anyone ever tries to tell you they are not real, ask them what they are then, imaginary? My kids sure feel real at 3 am when they are sick and I am taking care of them. I love them fiercely. I love them so much I can't breath sometimes, the love overwhelms me so much. I love them so much my eyes well up with tears, at the simplest cute little things they do sometimes. I love them. And it is real. They are my children. You are blessed to be in a family that understands that, that love you for who you are, and know you are their real brother and son. Try not to let people affect you who don't know what they are talking about. Try to listen to those who know you best, and love you most. All the ignorant comments in the world can't undo the fact that they are your family. We get stupid comments a lot, too - many of us in this forum get them - and sometimes I answer in a way to educate and help them understand how it really is, and sometimes I get tired of dealing with it. But my children are growing up, and I feel that part of my job as an adoptive mother is to help the world be just a little more understanding of the world my children know as normal. Each time I deal with an ignorant person and take the time (and sometimes grit my teeth) and teach a little in my response, I hope and imagine that that's one less hurtful comment they will hear later. Just this week a brother in law was wrestling with my daughter and her cousin and when my daughter fell to the floor he joked, "don't hurt her, she was expensive!!" After I picked my jaw up off the floor, I answered, "Actually, she was free. She was a gift from her birthmother. (then, to make him feel better, I added) The adoption process and legal fees were definitely pricey, though." Now, I know he didn't mean anything from it, - he loves my kids, in fact I've heard him joke about his own daughter being expensive (she was premie - and the hospital fees were high), but I didn't want my daughter to ever get it into her head that SHE cost anything, I don't want her to ever think, in her 6 year old thinking, that she was bought or sold. Many times people just say things, without thinking of the possible impact, or without thinking first. Some may try to be hurtful, but most just are curious, or don't understand. And as fellow humans on earth, we get to put up with them. Or not, as the mood suits us. :) Good luck, Talon, on your journey through life - putting up with other people's human-ness, and your own feelings. Always remember that your family is real, and really yours.

Dear Talon,You have a very real family; it sounds like your brother is a really neat guy. Many people are good at making statements when they know NOTHING about the subject. I have a birthson who was placed for adoption many years ago. We have been in reunion for 2 years and he and his family have become part of my family. The mother and father who raised him are and always will be his parents; the sisters he grew up with are still his sisters. His family has gotten bigger - and some of us look a little more like him... but he remains a "real" (also legal!) member of the family in which he grew up. Try to feel sorry for the people who are ignorant of the truth! Enjoy YOUR reality!

When I was 13 I had mono & was down 4 weeks and not allowed to do sports almost six months bcz cells get packed in the spleen. My mom made me banana milk shakes bcz they didn't hurt my throat and I could sip them. My brother brought me strawberry yogurt and that kinda thing went on everyday. My brother and my dad made me get up and walk in the bedroom to keep my body from going too weak. I remember Dad saying "Hang in, son. You're doing fine." You reminded of this when you talked about taking care of your kids when they got sick. I know what LOVE is, and it's real like my family full of love and they totally awesome REAL.

Every thing you write about your family proves that you are indeed part of a loving family and that they are your real family. If you look for and find your genetic roots, biological relatives may become part of your family but they will never take the place of the family you love and who love you. They will never share the experiences of the time you've spent growing up and becoming a young adult -- you might tell them about it, but the experiences belong to your mom and dad and brother. You have been blessed. There will always be people who try to find something to tease about or find some weakness to exploit. Try to ignore them!

You are absolutely right. As James Earl Jones sais, "Family relationships come from real bonding, not from something imagined, or a presumption about genetic inheritance." Two of my four grandparents, four of my cousins, and my own son were all adopted. They are real to me! Robin

My birth parents died in a plane crash when I was 2. My grandfather couldn't take me bcz he was a maritime captain of ship in Sweden where I was born. He knew the family here in California that couldn't have another baby and they adopted me. I know my grandfather in Sweden and see him alot. My family here is great. My dad is Swedish but became American citizen and my mom is American born. I went back to Sweden to see my grandfather four times and took my brother Cody with me twice. I know all about my blood heritage. My birth father was Swedish and my birth mom was Finnish whcih is where my bright blond hair comes from. Nobody in my family has hair like mine. They all have brown hair so I'm the blond boy in the brown hair family. I don't get hand me down clothes being the smallest one in the house. Cody's old stuff would swallow me. He's a six footer in size 11 shoes and I'm 5'7" in size 7 shoes when I even wear them which isn't much in summer. I like summer and going barefoot.