Tuesday Thread!!

I'm not a first mom, but I thought I'd chime in.I don't know how to answer this question. I will say that I would HOPE that I would support their decision w/o trying to influence them one way or the other. I would also hope I would be able to get them the help they needed to make an informed, educated decision so they were sure of what they felt was best.Good question.

I kept my DD's adoption a secret because I knew that the plan I had for her would not be supported by my family. It prevented me from including my family in this journey I am on. I would want my child to know that no matter WHAT they decided, I would support them in any and every way possible. If that meant they would want to place thier child for adoption then I would support that. I would help them to research every angle and I would try to prepare them for the ramifications that they may experience for the rest of thier life. In the future, I hope to raise a family that will know about the decision I made and that will (at age appropriate levels) know why I made that decision. I will want children that I parent to know that it was what was right for me at the time, and if any of them ever find themselves in a similar situation, that they will need to find what is right for them (and if they want me to be a part of that decision making process I would be more than willing to.) If in the end the decided for adoption I would do everything in my power to make sure that they are treated ethically and are given complete information when making thier final decision. Wow, that ended up being very long!

To be honest, it would depend on how old DD was and where she was in her life. I think I would be really sad if she were faced with this dilemma. (Do you spell dilemma like that?). I know for a fact that I would make sure she heard from birth moms who struggle years and years after the fact (I don't like to think of adoption presented as a "rosy" option).