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I guess my question is that sometimes when we set out to adopt that we won't have an opportunity for open adoption. I would love to know how many of you have open adoptions with your first moms.
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We do with two of ours. Yet the one that I thought would never open (child removed from biomom), is the one that takes so little from each of us, biomom and I, we adore each other and respect each other. But she is older and more mature and more able to admit her issues and why she is not parenting. The other, that I hoped would be this ideal and rosy openness, has not happened as biomom aided biofather in trying to get baby back, after we had done everything she asked and respected her. We're still working on it but she has backed away because we want honesty. So until she can be honest and we can trust again, it is not the openness we had hoped for.