Scary - any advice?

[FONT=Arial]My case is 5 and 1/2 years old and going absolutely nowhere>>[/FONT][FONT=Arial][/FONT] [FONT=Arial]I thought the laws now made it so a child couldn't be in the system that long? That's so unfair to your son. [/FONT]

It can happen and has happened to us. Yes, my son is the one whom the courts have completely disregarded, in favor of the birthmother.

Christy:First calm down. He is you son, in your custody. SHE is not going to be giving him any exolanations, fictional or otherwise, for at least ten more years. You have ti,e to saturate him with the truth.Second, things change. People move, die, or get voted of the bench.Third. You are his mother right now. Don't worry about the motion that isn't filed. Concentrate on baking cookies, watching the harvest moon, playing in the grass with puppies, and knowing the names of all "Bob the Builder" machinery. That is what tyour son needs right now. Let him feel your love, not your fear.

Sorry for the typos. I broke my arm and can only hunt and peck with the wrong one!

I would not concern myself with it.Ask yourself did you really expect anything else? I know the bfather blames everyone else for what is going on. I know this because so far the courts are supporting him in his fantasy life. It is easy for others to say that he or she is fighting for their child because they can not fathom someone taking out revenge or their own selfish goals ( whatever they may be) out on a child. When lie after lie is told and you can nolonger recall everything you have said you make up your own reallity so as to function in society and receive attention that was not given when it should have been. I would not even let the thought of her telling your son anything enter your thoughts.You are raising your son she is not.He will know what reality is before she ever has a chance to distort it. Give yourself and your son some credit. There will always be people all over this world that will try and convince you and him what reality is.You will raise him to tell the difference between who is true and who is false. Believe me at 9 yrs old my daughter knows who I am and what I will do and not do and what I expect from her to do and not do. It makes no difference what he may say in the future. Reality is really only today.Tomorrow it may change and yesterday will never change. Relax and laugh GOD BLESS

Thank you all (and for you who PMd, called and e-mailed me)! Your support is a constant for me and helps sustain me. I will always remember. Yes, after much thought all that she said just confirmed some past information I had received concerning her. And yes, my son will grow up saturated with love and truth. Hopefully he will gain the wisdom of ddaddysangel's DD and learn what love truly is - no matter what others may try and tell him. daddysangel - you have some of the best lines! Reality is really only today.Tomorrow it may change and yesterday will never change.

Relax and laughHow very true. I AM - perhaps somewhat timidly - moving on with my life. I am - slowly but surely - working to regain faith and hope. In some ways my meeting with his bithmom has helped with this. She clearly stated she did not want him. And you guys have helped me to understand that this - well, stuff - she said probably only validates that while she may keep motions filed against us, she is not likely ever to change his staying with us. Mainly I want you all to know that your love and support sustains me and I will always be grateful. Stacykelly2 - a long time ago you e-mailed me the prayer to St. Jude. I want you to know that I pull that prayer up almost every day and say it. I don't know if you realize how important that prayer has been in my life. Thank you! And that is what I want all of you to know: Your love, hugs, prayers, and words of wisdom do change lives - have changed mine at least. Thank you...