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Hi everyone, I just joined the forums a couple of days ago and just now found the time to introduce myself :).
My name is Meredith, I'm 34 and I live in a tiny town in NE Tennessee called Tazewell with my husband Brian to whom I have been married for almost 8 years. We have been wanting a baby almost since the day we got married but soon found out that we couldn't have children of our own due to my husband being sterile. We have had passing thoughts about adoption but never really persued it because the process of adoption is too costly for us.
Well...a unique oppertunity has been bestowed on us very recently and hence my reason for joining these forums. A young woman that I have met thru my job (I'm a receptionist at a Tattoo Shop) has gotten in contact with me because she is pregnant and is considering giving her baby up for adoption. She is a really sweet girl from a good home, just too young to be caring for a baby (she just turned 18) and she has fully acknowledged that. She told me she contacted us first because my boss had mentioned to her that we wanted a baby but couldn't have one of our own and she knows we could give the baby the life it deserves.
Well, after that I told her of our worries financially about the adoption process and it would take a very big miracle for us to help her out (let me make it clear that we can handle a child financially, just not thousands and thousands of dollars all in one lump sum like adoptions take). That is when the first of what I am hoping will be many miracles happened. Her Uncle just happens to be a Family Law Lawer and he has told her that if she does this he will take care of it for us for FREE.
So, it looks like we might be adopting a baby and hence why I'm here. I know I am going to need support in this that my other friends can't really give me not going thru the process themselves and I hope I can find it here.
I also have lots of questions, mostly about home studies. That is the thing I am most fearful about in all of this. Just the thought of someone judging me and deciding whether or not I can take care of a child just from a couple of interviews gives me the heebie jeebies :).
Thanks for listening to my loooooong story, I promise I'm not usually this long winded ;).
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Welcome...and congrats on your potential match. How far along is she and does she have contact with the pbfather are a couple questions I would get answered right away. As for the home study...don't sweat it. They aren't as bad as you think. I would look up in the phone book for agencies and call a couple to find the most reasonable cost wise to do your homestudy. I think first I would set up a meeting with the lawyer and find out what the adoption laws are in TN and then go from there. Good luck and keeping my fingers crossed for you.
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Well, those first two questions are already answered thank goodness, I just forgot to mention them here LOL.
She is almost 3 months along and as for the father, she has broken up with him and has informed him of her intent to give the baby up and he is fine with that.
Thanks for the warm welcome! :D
Welcome and congratulations!! Like joelynn said - don't sweat the homestudy. When we started our process that was what we were most dreading. It really turned out to be no big deal at all. However when you haven't done it the whole idea is pretty intimidating :rolleyes: Good luck on your journey, hope all goes well for your family!!
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