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Being a mom 40 or older not discriminating some say 35 is old to be a mom....But my question is do you think that society has accepted that being an older mom is okay and why? What do we do to change how society sees being a mom doesn't matter age but raising our children?
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lol mama s!
I have to say that while I look at the ones in their early 20's with kids and think "wow, they are so young!" too, I sure hope my kids don't wait as long as I did to have kids! Although I am by no means in a hurry (seeings how my oldest isn't even 12 yet), I would like to be a first time grandma prior to turning 80!
Hi there, I have two boys (age 4 and 10 months) and Ill be 38 in the spring when we start down that adoption path again... I definitely agree that it depends on the community etc. We have friends who are 10 years younger than us with their oldest being 12 and youngest being 6 I always forget that they are so much younger than us... and my stepdaughter and her husband both are 25 and have 3 kids and are some of the most mature responsible 25 yo's I know.
My husband and I talk about this often that to us it seems like if you are a younger parent being a parent 'ages' you (in terms of responsibility, maturity etc) but when you are an older parent it tends to work in reverse and at least I for one feel a lot younger than almost 40 !
I look forward to hanging around this group a little more now as I am 'gettin up there' in years :)
gina.
Momma to Aidan & Owen
thank you, dragonfly1234, for welcoming me. I just kinda jumped on this website a week or so ago and I really don't feel like I know anyone. I spent a year being quite about my situation why we let all the "rumors' in our small town die down, since we weren't looking to adopt and had this wonderful experience, but now I just want to talk to people I have something in common with.
startedover happy that you decided to join us. We also have another thread that will help you get to know some of the others on this forum [URL="http://forums.adoption.com/over-40-adoption/313192-okay-just-thinking-lol.html"]Okay Just Thinking....Lol![/URL] We are here for you! Come chat anytime with us all.
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I think I've already shared this, but it is kind of funny. Right when we were adopting DD (I was 45) a well meaning relative said, "Just think of this. How old are you going to be in 18 years when she graduates from High School?"
To which I responded, "How old am I going to be in 18 years if we don't adopt her?"
I was thinking the other day how many awesome people were raised by their awesome grandmothers who were probably much older than us!
I will say, since I am fairly if not completely anonymous here, that it was a little ironic for me to learn just this week that I am peri-menopausal! That's a little weird.
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Oh, all of you quit feeling sorry for your peri-menopausal selves. I'm POST MENOPAUSAL, cripes, you all are looking really young to me!!!!!!!!!!! Call us all crazy, that's ok for me. If you call "sane" a life other than the one I'm living, I'd prefer to be in this crazy place that I am. 57 years old, 4 children under the age of 10, parenting 2 boys and 2 girls the way I parented 2 boys and 2 girls 30 years ago? Yep, I may be crazy but I'm happy as hell!! Love to all of you. It makes my heart soar to know that there are others experiencing my joy (and exhaustion)!!
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