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Hi guys, this is my first post. Adoption has touched my life both as a birth family member searching for three siblings and as a prospective adoptive parent.
I am hoping that some of you may be able to advise me in this situation. We are applying to adopt a child. I am white, my husband is very dark. We have a birth child, five years old, who has a chocolate skin tone and very African looking features. I have read over many posts in this forum, and have realised that a lot of adoptees want to look like their afamily. So in our circumstance, who do you think a child in our family would want to look like? Would they want to look like one of the aparents or their asibling? I am leaning towards looking for a child with similar colouring to our son. We live in a predominantly white society and my hubby is away a lot, so I am often asked when I adopted my bson from.
I personally wouldn't care what colour/race our child was, but I am very aware that it will be important to our new little one as he/she grows older.
Your advice and experiences would be most welcomed. :thanks:
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I have been through all of the foster parent classes. Mixed race or black kids would be best for your family because they would match your other child and the less obvious it is that you are adopted, the better.
Typically african american children are harder to place too because most adoptive parents are white and want white kids they can pass off as their own to avoid their own scrutiny.
Everyone wants younger children too. Everyone wants a kitten no one wants a cat is the term they use.
I was irish and adopted by dark skinned italians. It was very obvious I was adopted. It brought me great self consciousness and heart ache. There is a stigma and shame with being adopted from the bad practices of the past.
When you see a white lady and black kids you think well either they are adopted or her husband is black. If you have kids that are mixed society still considers them black.
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