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Originally Posted By nancyWe have two bio. children 15 and 9, and we adopted three children 16,14, and 12. Our adopted children have been with us for two years now and we would like to adopt again. We would like to adopt again but our case workers say not now because our children have not had enough time to adjust. Since our children have been with us DFS has seen them maybe 6 times and not at all in the last year. We live in missouri and would like to know if there is a waiting time or are they just messing with us? We sould like to adopt a speacal needs toddler. Please help.
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Originally Posted By StacyI thought generally the time needed for adjustment was 6 months to a year. If the children are doing well in your home, and they are okay with you wanting to adopt again, you should be able to. Keep on asking people and make sure the info. you are getting is right. Sometimes workers say things that are not by the book.
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Originally Posted By nancyThank you for responding. we know what our agency is telling us is not corect and we know that they are doing it because we made some choices for or adopted children that they did not like. They seem to be more concerned about how their numbers look than in Doing what is best for the children. They wanted everyone to belive that our adopted daughter was well adjusted considering the fact that she was sexually abused daily for 10 years. While in foster care (they had coustody of her for three years) she never saw a formal counselor, when we finally got her as a teen she was disacotioating very badly. When we started to seeck counseling for her and started contridicting what socail services was saing they were not happy. They threatened to take them back if we could not handle them. I did what was best for my child not what social services wanted, they even told me that they where proud of their succesful placement numbers and did not want to mess them up. When I started making calls others counselors in other counties was telling me that that was not right and that if we could get them to change their minds they had plenty of children. But they still said no. So I don't know what to do now. Any sugestions would be helpful. I thought they wanted parents to love and do what is right for these children, but it seems that our county just wants to do what looks best for them.
Originally Posted By mopromomI am real confused about DFS coming back in the picture once you have adopted. I adopted my son 3 years ago and that was it as far as DFS is concerned. No one has ever checked on him to see how he is doing. I am a foster parent so I will alway's have contact with them but not as far as he is concerned. I know of a couple that was having problem's with their bio kid's and DFS came back and put their adopted kid's back into foster care. I would think that if you are meeting your children's need's and being a good parent the state would want you to adopt again. I wish you luck and hope that you are able to adopt again. These kid's need good homes and parents that truely love them.
Originally Posted By ADRIENNEhi nancy how are u, may name is adrienne and my ?? for u, is how long did the whole process take for u, to adopt, days wks mos ect ect,,, i am in the process of getting ready to adopt 2 young ladies lords will from A.G. 12,13 what all did u, have to do please this part is new to me i have been a foster parent for 2yrs to a young man please email me at BOOBULOO1230@AOL.COM PLEASE THAX AND MAY GOD BLESS U, AND YOURS ALWAYS
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