Baptism

Well after much ado, I have finally scheduled the date for Zara's baptism! It will take place on February 17th. I felt like such a moron setting it up. The problem is that I converted to Catholicism in my 20s and, I discovered, that the Catholics do things differently. First there is the pre-Jordan class that has to be taken. The woman at the church told me that the godparents had to take the course. She neglected to mention that the parents had to take the course as well! And it is only given once a month on the 2nd Tuesday. (Yeah, just missed it!) Then there is the godparent issue. Only an eligible Catholic can be a true godparent. Others can be Christian witnesses (assuming they are not, like my husband, Jewish). So I have a friend who is an eligible Catholic (married in the church, belongs to a parish, and all that) and she is thrilled to be Zara's godmother. I also ask another dear friend who I met online almost 5 years ago at the beginning of our fertility journeys. She is like a sister to me. She also is honored. Now here's the problem. I call the church today to confirm the date for the baptism. The woman is taking all the information from me (I seemed to throw her when I kept insisting that I had no maiden name...I only had one name: mine). I then let her know about the Catholic godmother and my other friend, the Christian witness. And she tells me, "oh no, you can't have two women! Just a woman and a man." I am completely thrown. You see, I was baptized Presbyterian and I have 2 godmothers and 2 godfathers. How was I to know that in the catholic church you only get one of each?! And the last thing I wanted to do was un-ask my friend. Luckily the Monsignor intervened and said that my Catholic friend would be the official godmother, but my other friend was welcome to come up as a witness. Phew! Now the search for a baptism dress!