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Hello everyone,
I was on the forum for a long time, but took a break for quite a while. I see many old-timers and many new.
A little bit about my story, is that I'm a long termer when it comes to the contested adoption. My DH and I have had custody for over 4-years. Our son was in and out of his biological mom's home for 1.5 years. He was out more than he was in. He was taken for abuse, neglect, and biomom's drug abuse. Our DS has 2 half-siblings, that are also out of the home being raised by other family members. Yes, she's a family member.
We actually tried adopting 2-years ago and were denied, not because anything was wrong, but because her 6-phone calls and 2 visits (at a local diner for an hour) counted as her not abandoning. Biomom sued for custody and visitation and got nothing.
We fast forward to now and we've gone over a year with no visits and 2-phone calls. Biomom is now in jail awaiting her trial and is also in the psychiatric ward. It's been a very long road. I guess we'll be jumping in the legal battle again coming this year.
Mom2J
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Hi Mom2J, It is good to hear from you, although I am so sorry you are still here in this position. I am hoping and praying for you that MAY THIS TIME BE IT!!!!! I hope all goes well this time and that you are able to finalize. You have been down such a long and arduous road. I'm here for you. Christie:love:
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Hey Christie,
It's sad to see that you're also still here. (Oh, that doesn't sound right.) I meant, that you're still involved in a contested adoption. I'll bet our cases are the 2- with the longest time actually going through this. I know, misery loves company. Atleast we aren't alone in this process, but still would rather not see anyone having to go through this.
Maybe the laws will change someday, where the best interst of the child, will take precedence. I can still hope.
Mom2J
Momwithfive, thank you for the kind sentiment. My DH and I are just sitting back and waiting for the last of the "terms of abandonment" to be met. We are almost there.
Our judge ruled that if our case had been ONLY about best interest of the child, there would be NO QUESTION we should be able to adopt this child, but because Biomom dropped in and out of our lives, she can still keep her rights. I do understand his rulings and he did protect our son, by not allowing her to get custody or any visitation, except at our discretion. We were told to "not make things easy" for biomom, since we would actually travel 3 1/2 hours for her to have a visit, yet she wouldn't stop 100 feet off of the freeway to see him.
I have faith it's all going to work out, but I've got to quit putting MY time frame on it and give it to God to allow this in HIS time.
Mom2J