Adoption Etiquette

can you be more specific about etiquette on whose part and regarding what?

I am not sure what you mean by etiquette, but these are books I use as resourses and have made my immediately family read as I was waiting for my son. Adoption is a family affair20 things adoptees wish their families knewToddler adoption: A weaver craft storyAdoption nationParentling the adopted child20 life choices adoptees have to make (follow up to the other 20 things book)I alos recommend the following magazines- both of which have digital versionsAdoption TodayAdoptive Families there is website- I probably have ti wrong here- called 4everfamily.org that has a ton of information for everyone in the adoption process. I hope this helps,Love to you

These are the books me 100% agrees, I have read a couple of them, for real.

Basically, I have family members who say the worst comments... eg... how much did you pay for her? are you going to return her? :grr: They need to be educated... and they don't want to be educated by me or my husband... pride/ego thing. Maybe a good book might help.

Adoption is a Family Affair would be my recommendation for that. Or avoidance, if they won't respect what you tell them you will and won't accept as far as comments.

I would give them the book "adoption is a family affair". Let them know that their comments are less than sensitive and that while you understand their desire to have details, you will not respond to questions like that. You could also say- "my child is priceless, but the attoeney fees were XXXX" and then ask them how much their child cost (just to show them how the question feels) I started taking my parents to adoption seminars that my agency provided for waiting families. This allowed them to be educated by professionals in a relaxed setting. Some of the best ones were the seminars where the presentors were parents who had adopted and they brought their children along to discuss issues. If you don't have access to these types of seminars, check for the foster parent training classes/seminars for your state/county- they are a good resource or adoption fairs in your area. I know my area has a huge adoption fair in October and there are number of seminars/panels that anyone can attend. Love to you,

Adoption is a Family Affair is my recommendation too. We gave a copy to my parents and my in-laws when we were going through our first adoption.