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Originally Posted By bm JamieMy bson is not a secret so I talk about him openly.At times it is like a broken record when people say "It's nice that the aparents let you be a part of this".I know that bmothers hear these words so often & i know know that these words deeply effect how we think of ourselves.It makes us feel unworthy of being envolved in the triad. A group leader of a support group in open adoption, who is also a bmother, has taught me key words that I live by ( It is not a privelage but a responsibility).I have a responsibility to my bson to inform him of who he is.It's for his sake.
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Originally Posted By bm JamieIt is unfortunate that people that are not triad members say these things to us but remember that they have no clue about adoption. When I talk to adoptive mothers , they tell me that they wish that the birthmothers would have contact or write to them & their children.They wish that they had the answers for their kids that they need. They realize the importance of the birthmother.Remember only we as birthmothers can answer these questions. Jennifer, your role in your bchilds life is never over.
Originally Posted By PrudenceJamie, I have a friend,not close but we talk on the phone quite often. She is 4 months pg and at 8 weeks she told me and my husband that she would like us to adopt he baby through open adoption. I too strongly believe that it is not a privilage but a responsibility. And thanks for saying that.I am happy either way that it go's. But I hope and pray that she and my husband and I have a great relationship if it is ment to be.