Adoptee in Will?

My placed son (and only child) is included in my parents' will. It was no big deal at all and no one questioned it. He will be included in my will as well.

Hi there, As soon as I had my bson's name I called my lawyer and had my will changed. My estate (sounds impressive, but really not so much) and my life insurance proceeds will be split equally between him and my raised children. I did speak with my raised kids about this ahead of time. Strictly to make sure that they understood why and, hopefully, to avoid any bad blood later on. They understood that I wasn't there for him growing up but recognized my need and wish to help him in the future. For some reason the only person that I haven't discussed this in detail is my bson! I guess I'm afraid it's a little too early in our reunion to do so. I have to say it was one of the first things I thought of when he contacted me. Bizarre?

My daugther, which I placed, is also in my Will. She has been since she was born - she and my son (and any children that come later, should that ever happen) will split whatever I leave behind equally. I gave up my rights to be her mother, she did NOT give up her rights to be my daughter. If she doesn't want what I leave for her, that's one thing - but the option will be hers...as adoptees have so few options in adoption.

I don't have a will at the moment but I do have a 401K, she is listed as getting 50% as my neice and nephews get the remaining.I told her parents about it and they are fine with it.

I've thought about changing my will... I definitely need to update it (it still lists my brother as the kids' guardian.) At this point all I have to leave are debts that are getting deeper. (Currently, DH inherits all! LOL). I think my retirement (DH is beneficiary) will just about cover the debt...)