adopting older kids w/ biological children in the house - questions

You are so thoughtful to be aware of this. I agree, it may be hurtful to your adopted child. We have all our son's pictures in one place-the hallway going up the stairs. We quickly made a place for ds #3, blew up the few baby pics we had and his area looks just like his older brothers'. Try to get as much of the child's property as possible--I had to make a bit of a fuss to get ds's kindergarten report card, the first tooth he lost, etc. back from foster parents. It's worth it-these things belong to him. Try getting baby pics from the bios, biograndma may be a good source. I made copies of pics that my MIL had (ours was a relative adoption). Good luck--sounds like this is going to be a wonderful family for this child!