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My 4 yr old granddaughter has bounced from one familly member to the next all her life..and only 4!! She now is going to be CPS Foster Home/Adoption..her mother's parental rights were taken. The Social Worker does not give us much information. I need to know if the biological family (grandparents, sibling, aunts, uncles, etc) have been a constant in her life and is very attached and want to stay involved in her life..just what are the chances of that happening.?? It woud have to be an open adoption, right? Who has the most say in all this? The Caseworker when assigned to Adoption? All my granddaughter's family live in one certain area..will they concentrate on that County to adopt?
I am sorry for so many questions..any enlightment from either side and experience would be grateful.
thankyou,
A grandmother caught in the middle between her own daughter and rest of family !! In the end.it is all about what is best for the child*
Csue
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You can contact the adoption worker and let them know you would like to be part of your grand daughter's life if at all possible. Also, the child has a court appointed attorney and they will probably handle the adoption. We adopted our DD form foster care and wanted the bio family to maintain contact with her because her Mom has slight mental retardation. So the child has never been abused or seriously neglected in any way. He mom and grandmother were just not able to take care of her and neither was her father. We have 4 visits a year plus I send pics and letters.
The reason the child is in foster care can complicate the issue of bio family involvement. The more serious the reason for foster care the less likely the adoptive family would be to contact. Do not expect the adopting family to be open to too much contact, as that is not the norm. I would suggest asking if the adoptive family would be willing to provide pics and updates on a schedule they are comfortable with.
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Well, we hope for contact with our future child's bio family, though not sure how possible that will be if we adopt through foster care. (Until now we were pursuing an independent domestic adoption)
As for rights, technically I believe only the parents have rights to a child (which I think is very unfortunate). However, there have been several kids we have inquired about awaiting adoption where maintaining bio family contact was included in the child's profile as something the adopting family would need to be open to and maintain. In at least one case, we were specifically not chosen because we were in a different state than the kids and their bio relatives.
Would you be interested in adopting your granddaughter? If you bring this up to her CW, it is my understanding that they would have to give you priority to adopt her. And if for whatever reason you cannot adopt her, letting them know that you want to maintain contact should be taken seriously and included in the child's placement decisions. I would encourage you to adopt her if at all possible.
You may also want to post this question on the social worker thread, where you can get a more professional perspective.
Best of luck to you!
Karolina