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Okay, so all the Facebook threads got me thinking about my most recent Facebook....uh.....challenge?
The day before my vacation I got a friend request. It was a name I didn't recognize....so I checked out the picture. The picture looked old. It was of a woman and three small children.
I still have NO CLUE who this is.
So I go to her page. I don't have access to the whole thing, but I can see her info - her work info, etc. Then I see we have one friend in common.
Lightbulb!!!
IT'S MY BOYFRIEND'S MOM.
Now, this wouldn't be odd if, oh, I'D EVER MET HER BEFORE. Or communicated with her. Emailed her. Something more than been in the same room when he talked to her on the phone.
I talked to him about it and I'm not accepting it yet - though I wasn't too comfortable with that either because I don't want her thinking I'm a giant witch (perhaps starting with another letter!!!!!)
Anyway, I let that go.
THEN - I get a "tag request" - which I guess is where someone can request someone be tagged in one of your pictures. Well, REALLY, the "request" was meant to go to Long Board (my boyfriend) because it said, "Is this TG????" in regards to a picture of us.
Come to find out - that was from his GRANDMA.
COME ON!!!!
Oh, and it's not his Mom's Mom either - so it seems that snoopy behavior comes from BOTH sides of his family. How is this starting already???????
Now accepting other people's Facebook woes, significant-others-relatives-spying-on-your-life-waaaaaaay-prematurely woes, or advice - though I'm not sure there is any! haha
Oh, and I'd like to note - Long Board thinks it's weird too and isn't entirely supportive of his relatives FB moves. So at least he's not of the mind that it's completely normal!!!!
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I recently ignored a friend request from my friend's mom who I had met exactly one time about 4 years ago. She is mentally unbalanced. The things she has said and one to her daughter are beyond disturbing. Luckily, my friend insisted I ignore her request...because even she would not "friend" her own mother. (she had to say, "that's a boundary issue for me mom, You know, because of the years of abuse and all")
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Imagine my surprise when my son's amom (who hasn't been happy about the reunion) friended me on FB!!
In the end I decided 'screw it' and friended her.
But yes, it's funny, I was just reading something else you'd posted and wondering if you'd met his family yet...
GUESS YOU NEARLY HAVE!
Yikes.
VERY interesting thread. I am going through some weird FB stuff right now with my mother-in-law. She requested me as a friend a few months ago. After some time ( I'd say 2 weeks) I accepted. I regretted it from day 1 !! She makes the strangest comments about everything I post. And I'm not on there very much. But it's like she's just waiting for me to post something so she can pounce on it. It's embarassing. But now I have found a way to still remain her "friend" but basically cut her off from seeing my new posts and pics. It has really helped. Maybe you can try that for your sort of unwanted friends !!
Oh TG...sounds like an adventure
1st: I want to say that the little smiley you picked to go in the subject line is just so darn cute! lol (I also think the "eek" face is cute too hehe).
2nd: I have some pretty nosy family (really just on my mom's side). I'm friends with one of my Aunts on facebook and she saw my profile picture (at the time) and told my mom that she had never seen me look that "sensual" before.:eek: I was shocked because it was just me looking up at the camera and not smiling (and apparently that was 'sensual' and apparently my aunt needed to gossip to my mom about it LOL).
At Christmas last year, one of my cousins (that we hadn't seen in years) came to the Christmas party and brought his wife (we hadn't known he was married LOL). This girl (my cousin's wife) was very quiet (probably because she didn't know us) and was just sitting on the couch. The same aunt I was just talking about decided she would take it upon herself to interrogate the girl about how she and my cousin met, how he proposed, what she liked about him, what kind of education she had, what she wanted to do with her life, etc., etc., etc. I felt TERRIBLE for her (and secretly glad I wasn't her lol).
Anyway, I understand nosiness...it's rather annoying and hard to get around (maybe I'm just saying all of that because I tend to be a pretty private, reserved person who doesn't like people prying into my business lol)
ETA: I attached the "picture in question". Maybe I just don't know what 'sensual' is LOL
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VERY interesting thread. I am going through some weird FB stuff right now with my mother-in-law. She requested me as a friend a few months ago. After some time ( I'd say 2 weeks) I accepted. I regretted it from day 1 !! She makes the strangest comments about everything I post. And I'm not on there very much. But it's like she's just waiting for me to post something so she can pounce on it. It's embarassing. But now I have found a way to still remain her "friend" but basically cut her off from seeing my new posts and pics. It has really helped. Maybe you can try that for your sort of unwanted friends !!
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hpfreak, I am laughing because the "sensual" thing cracks me up...you are wearing a tee shirt for gosh sakes! my teenage nieces are definitely more "sensual" than that (they show too much skin, in old auntie's opinion)!! (you are so pretty, by the way!). tmom, that is "blanked" up!! haha. i would NOT want my MIL on my FB (if I were on!) and at least I have met her! (oh, maybe that's why I don't want her as a friend!).
HAHAHA I know!!! My cousin (who is one of my BEST friends and who I love to DEATH!!!) is my complete opposite. She is loud, outgoing, and VERY over the top. She is also friends with this aunt on facebook wearing very revealing clothes (which she can't help to much as she is...ahem...busty) and even has pictures of he and her friends partying (alcohol in the pics, hookah, the whole nine) and yet my aunt decides to comment on MINE! lol It's just funny.Btw, thanks for the compliment! I like that picture of me because my skin looks so nice. I'm so critical of my pictures though that whenever you see one picture of me (that I took), just know that 20 more were deleted before that one was "approved" by me LOL.My mom doesn't want a facebook, but if she did get one I would probably friend her because I'm friends on FB with so many other people that she has frequent communication with so it wouldn't matter.
Ya, that's odd...REALLY odd. My first thought was "Oh, Longboard doesn't answer all their interrogating questions to their satisfaction about you so they want to see what you are REALLY like".;) I don't have that many friends on FB really so I don't often ignore requests. One I have ignored though is from my husband's 14 year old niece. Love her, but I don't want a 14 year old on my list for fear of having to censor certain things. I'm not "bad" on there but still, she's 14.
I don't FB, but I do Myspace. I have a couple members of my family as friends and I've never really had an issue (maybe because I don't add the "odd" ones lol). I also have one of my SO's sisters and his grandma as friends too. I've never gotten any weird comments from his sister, but sometimes I wonder if adding grandma was a good idea.
Don't get me wrong I love grandma, she's an amazing woman, but everytime I post anything that could be possibly taken as me being upset she automatically has to comment asking if SO and I had a fight.
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My 14 year old cousin friended me and I really did not want to allow it. As you said Crick, she is so young and I do not want to censor myself. But I felt bad so I accepted. When I see some of her posts I want to gag. Things about losing the one you love. I mean I know young kids can fall in love or think they are in love but it just cracks me up.
Then there is my 18 and 21 year old nephews. Oh boy. I get so uncomfortable reading some of their updates. Updates and pictures. I can't believe my nephews are old enough to be drinking and talking about sexual things. Gross!!!
HP, that's a pretty picture of you!! "Sensual" tho? ha ha!!! I was denied by my 17 year old niece, she was my friend on myspace when I had one, but will not accept me on Facebook because I'm an adult, LOL!! I'm already semi censoring myself because I have work friends and DD's mom on there as friends, so I don't care much about her seeing anything. However, my mom has a Facebook and I refuse to add her, LOL!She's very nosy and gossipy, she's the type who would want to know all about what happened to so and so from 5th grade who is my friend and then proceed to tell the entire town my response. It's too close for comfort for me! And recently my dad has confessed to trying to search for my sister and spying on my cousins wife. Bizarre!!!
Haha, glad to hear I'm not the only one dealing with bizarre Facebook encounters!!!
I didn't even know his Mom knew about me, so I'm sure he's not giving her ALL the info on me. He's fairly private too, and I don't think he's interested in involving his Mom every step of the way - thank goodness! :)
Hopefully that's the last familial development from his end......
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This is why I don't have a FB account! LOL!!!
I would have too many "issues" with people who wanted to friend me that I didn't want to friend!! My life is complicated enough.....
TG, I would feel strange accepting a friend request from BFs mom if I never even met her. I think some people, though, just friend everyone no matter what, and think nothing of requesting to be friends, even if they are an acquaintance of an acquaintance or even further removed. I don't know what I would do in your situation, though! Sorry I can't be of much help, here.
That's okay Peachy :) BF and I are on the same page with not accepting her at this time. Once I meet her? Well, I'll have to reconsider of course.....but I just don't need her "spying" on me. Or whatever it is she'd be doing!
And hey - I KNOW nosy - my family is nosy! But at least they're up front about it and just grill him to his face :evilgrin: haha (poor guy!)