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Hello,
I am an aunt who is kinship fostering 3 children. The eldest child (9) has been excessively aggressive towards younger siblings to the point of hurting them. The eldest has been hospitalized several times for anger and other depression issues and is now in a therapeutic foster home and doing fine. She seems to do okay without her siblings. But, after honeymoon period wears off, her manipulative and aggressive nature comes out. At what point is it better to separate siblings groups, rather than keep them together? We are worried for the safety of the two younger siblings.
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Talk to the caseworkers. L, now 11, who I got at 6 was separated after a month from 3 of his siblings when his brother "allegedly" molested him. I put allegedly in asterisks because no one is sure what happened. P, L's older bio brother came home 3 years ago. There was jealousy and some acts but not real aggression. But really talk to the cw's.
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:wings: Well, being jealous is normal for children, siblings...I use to take it personal when I see my children being unkind but my husband remines me they are not robots and they will lock horns at times.
That is where we parents come in.... good example when my 17 year old (very imature for his age) when my 15 d told my 17 s was being rude I walked up to him and said, S are you going to be a blessing and a help to me and show your sister kindness or are you going to go sit outside by yourself (we were at a furneral...dinner) he said, yes ma'am he'd show respect. I then walk away....Im never to busy to walk my kids through bad behavior...shelfish choices.
No matter what my kids go through...I hold them accountable for their behavior. Otherwise, they'd pull the "devil made me do it card" etc.
I had a rough childhood and I have learned that we need to teach our children that being rude is not acceptable...if your child chooses to be rude and refuses to obey the rules she'll lose privileges etc. either she's gonna be apart of the team or she can stay in her room without privileges.
untill, she submits and apoligizes to you and the child she/he offended she stays on resriction.
Again, as you validate her pass and tell her/he how much you love and cherish her and sorry that her parent or parents made bad choices and that you are now there for her but you have rules that will not be bent when it comes to breaking another human beings spirit just because things are not going to their liking.
He/she needs to love their birth parents and forgive them and pray for them.....that as long as she/he makes good choices life will go smoother.
Well, I hope I helped a little.lol
I have ten children, 6G, 8B, 11B, 13B,13.5B, 15G, 16.5B, 17.5 B, 20.5G, 24.5B and one grandgirl 3.
Seven adopted (five are from child Protective services) two Mom passed and left them to us and three birth.
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