how do I tell me kids I was adopted?

I would say tell them in case a bio relative finds you, they won't feel like they were sucker punched. Be age appropriate but let them know something.

Perhaps when the subject of "where babies come from" comes up? Some babies grow inside their mommies, like you grew inside of me. But sometimes mommies can't grow babies, so they find a baby that needs a mommy and they 'adopt' her -- to keep and love and take care of forever and ever. Like your grandma did for me!Then just answer the questions that they ask.

You need to tell them simply because when they are adults and go to the doctors office and fill out a family medical history form - it needs to be accurate and providing how grandma, grandpa etc died and what illnesses they had - can lead the doctor down the wrong path. Kind regards,Dickons

I would, even if just for the medical reasons as dickons stated. My mother was adopted by her stepdad, my grandpa, when she was little. While I don't have one iota of medical info on my bio grandfather, I know not to list any of my grandpa's info on medical histories. I've known since I was a child, I don't know who told me or how, I just remember knowing when I was a kid (bio grandfather was part NA, and I thought that was cool) so I can't help with how they might react or feel. I can tell you I never felt overly upset by it, or even thought much about it, except I thought it was cool I was part NA. My grandpa was still my grandpa, the other guy was just my grandma's previous husband as far as I was concerned. I would look at books that explain adoption if they are younger, they might help them understand. I think I was probably around 4 or 5 when I was told, but that's purely a guess. I really can't remember what was said, or even why except I know I have some of her old books that had her old last name on them. It probably hasn't come up because most people don't wonder if their parents are adopted or not, unless someone tells them they are.

I have 3 children that are young and we visit bmom so they will know. I think it is important for them to know just because everyone else knows. I would feel bad if my children were trying to compare themselves or figure out who in my afamily they looked like, when obviously they won't. I would recommend looking on amazon to see if they have any children's books on having parents that were adopted, I'm sure there is some out there.