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I am the 42-year old mom of three beautiful children but I have always thought about adoption. I never brought it up to my husband and never thought he would consider it. The other day, out of the blue, he asked me if I would ever consider adoption. I was floored. We do not feel our family is complete. So we are jsut starting to explore this option and I don't even know where to begin. Any advise? Is it even an option to adopt when you already have 3 kids?
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There are lots of people on here that have bio children and choose to adopt. There are so many different ways to go about doing it--it can make your head spin. I would suggest posting on the general adoptive parent board for more input.I would also check online to see if there are any type of adoption support groups in your area. Some are geared to specific types of adoptive families such as International adoptions or transracial adoptions. This might give you a feel for what is out there also. Many people on the boards have adopted through the foster care system. Best wishes on your journey. It can be a long one (the research, etc), but so rewarding!
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Our journey started with infertility, but I had always thought of adoption, before I ever met my DH. One day I was reading our local paper, and an attorney happened to be holding a free meeting for people interested in adoption.He outlined four types of adoption: International, Domestic, Foster-Adopt, and Private. After checking out the foster program in our area, we decided to go domestic. We found a great agency, did all the paper work and did the home study and are now in the waiting pool. :)Good luck to you!Edited to say you will find a tremendous amount of information, help, and support on this site...welcome!
"Julie" - we have 4 adopted but I have 4 by birth already grown and gone. Adopting wasn't difficult for us but we were open to any race child, except CC as we are an interracial family. How old are your other children? That might be the deciding factor in how you decide to go -- international, domestic, foster care, etc. I'd be happy to answer any more of your questions.
Julie,
Our family chose to adopt from the very beginning. At 46...with two babies already grown, we decided to adopt infants again. By the age of 50, we had adopted three beautiful babies; and just last year, we adopted our last baby. We'll be 53yrs old this year.
If you are willing to go through the hassle of adoption agencies/paperwork, prying from all angles in your homestudy and open to any ethnicities (we only wanted AA or multi-racial babies...no caucasian babies (CC)....) then your chances to adopt a baby can be higher. If you're open to some or many special needs, the chances are even greater.
Please feel free to pm me (Josie's a great resource too) if you'd like. Good luck to you.
Sincerely,
Linny
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My husband and I were also the parents of 3 (all grown) when we decided to adopt at the ages of 45 & 46. We now have a 2 1/2 year old daughter and next month we are leaving to pick up our now 8 months old daughter from Ethiopia.
The only advice I can give is to do your research. Determine what type of adoption is best for your family - International, Domestic, Foster-Adopt.
Many agencies and attorney's offer informational meetings - attend some of these meetings if possible.
Talk to other adoptive parents about their adoption experiences.
Join a local adoption support group in your area.
Like someone else said, there is a lot of information out there and it can make your head spin. For us, researching options and making a well informed decision that has worked out beautifully for our family.
Best of luck!