The three most important things to do when your adopted child is AA (and you are CC)?

a friend of mine adopted an AA daughter and the rest of the family is CC. the child had a lot of trouble due to the fact that the town they live in is mostly CC people. my best suggestion is to make sure other people are around that child so they don't feel like they are the only AA person/child around.

We are a CC couple that adopted our AA baby girl when she was 2 weeks old. At the beginning, I was more worried about just being a new mother..... :) We have been very blessed in our community and church because our daughter is so loved by those around us. I know our family looks "different" to some people.....but that is alright. When people ask, the biggest advide I can give you, is to be honest and just remember they are curious. Once I tell them our adoption story (which I love to do!), they are usually so thrilled to hear it. It has opened MANY doors for comeplete strangers to approach us and talk to us about adoption and how they are considering adoption.We are still learning many things....especially hair care! :) That is the biggest challenge we have at the moment!katie

I think the most important thing you can do if adopting one of these things is have yourself committed. That's foolishness bordering on the level of insanity.Failing that, you should move to some coon land like Haiti.

What kind of idiot would adopt a newborn pavement ape?

My husband and I were approached by our neighbor's daughter... she asked us to adopt her son, who's due date is in December. She is african american and we are caucasian. I am so honored that she chose us! I think the optimal choice for any child is to be in a family where he/she is loved unconditionally and is encouraged to be the person that God intended them to be. Interacial families may have different challenges than other families, but they are not overcomeable. My husband and I have fostered african american children, and yes, our family may look different than others, but I think we look beautiful! I love that interacial families show others how we are all created equal, all beautiful in our own way, and all loved by God, who created us exactly right. I do agree, though, that being in a community where there are different ethnicities and cultures is a positive thing for interacial families. I want my children to grow up seeing others that look like them. One of my favorite children's books on this topic is "Black, White, Tan". It's written by Nicole C. Mullen and is sold only on her website. It is so good!! It's written from a child's perspective and the child talks about her family and how the people in her family have different skin colors and how God made us all beautiful. Good luck on your adoption journey!

I know this thread is a little older, from Nov. 2010, but I wanted to share--my BFF is CC/AA. She grew up in a town where she wasn't the only AA (which is the group she most identified w/, although I am CC), not by far, but at the time, there were a lot of signs of racism lingering. She now lives in a much larger community where AAs and CCs and all other races live in the same neighborhoods. She has told me, in no uncertain terms, to NOT adopt an AA or AA/CC baby unless we move to a more racially diverse area. Period. Since we live in a tiny mainly CC community, we probably won't be adopting an AA child. Unfortunately.

Im the mom of 6 kiddos, 5 are of a different race than my DH and I. I think the first thing is to love them unconditionally for who they are, not what they look like. I love my children's hearts, their thoughts, and their feelings. Secondly I love how cute they are. I make sure I tell my kids how beautiful on the inside and the out they are! I love my childrens color, their hair, and their heritage! The most important part was to have friends, and family who are the same race as my children, around them at various events and times, to reassure my children that they love their style of hair or style, and more importantly who they are as a person. I dont want my sons or daughters thinking that all Black persons are caught by the police by seeing Cops, or that are all in the inner city, uneducated, struggling to survive. I want them to realize they can go to college too. They should have families who stay together, support each other, and build a better future. My friends and family members reassure my children that these things I desire are really true. My friends or family are married, with children, are successful, and not involved with the police, etc. When my children, or I face racism, we have someone who understands what its like to turn to...We are able to ask, what do we ignore, who do we educate, and when do we take action. Without my friends and familys support, it would be difficult for my children to be as secure as they are today.

I'm Aa and any baby and all the child needs is love. But if I were to give 3 helpful hints they would be 1) Don't make such a big fuss that her hair is different. Tell her how awsome it is that her hair has weight and she can do so many things with it. If you dwell on how its dificult for you then YES she will have a complex abput it (and that's only because e its not what you are used to... if you had really curly hair straight hair might be difiuclt also) 2) Just make sure she knows a bunch of different people from different cultures. If you normalize cultural diversity it won't be a big deal that she is black. 3) teach her about the civil rights movement and other movements of equality in our country. You want her to know about the black AND white people who died for the cause. But also all the women who fought for sufferage... or Jews who died during the holicost... you want her to be proud to be black... but know that cultural suffering is not just a black problem. I say normalize it. Your family makeup is perfect... for your family. Just as sally has two dads... sally is darker than her parents... but they ARE her parents