What do you feel about adoption by two dads?

I absolutely would be open to choosing a two-dad family! If I were to place my child for adoption, my main concerns would be whether she would be loved, well cared for, and allowed to flourish in life; not what gender the parents are. :)

If I were a birth mother, I absolutely would be open to a two dad family. I have seen some amazing two dad/two mom families...I don't think that the sexes of the parents matters so much as the people doing the parenting and the state of their relationship does.

so on a different but related note, when I told my mom that I was giving my son up for adoption, she of course wanted to know about the adoptive parents. She asked me what religion they were, and when I told her Christian she asked what denomination. I asked her did it matter? "of course" she said. Until I told her I could care less if they were druids and worshipped trees, as long as the baby grew up in a loving household with good morals. That being said, I would choose a 2 dad family. Again, as long as the child is loved and is taught right from wrong I don't believe there is anything wrong with it. I think the birthparents choice in the matter though would depend greatly on their own views of homosexuality. Also, on another sidenote, which may or may not influence the bparents decision, as a family that can't concieve (although one day I hope you men feel the pain of pregnancy/childbirth! LOL), the child will always know it's adopted. Well, maybe not always, unless you tell them of course, but they would definitely figure it out as they learned about the birds and the bees!Best of luck to you!

I am curious to see the responses to your thread. Personally I would be at least as likely to place a child with two men as I would with a married couple but I would be quite unlikely to place a child at this stage in life. I am quite worried that because in the US children are placed by birth mothers, well qualified parents will be excluded because of social prejudice.

I'd do it in a second. I've got a couple male couple partnerships in my life who are raising amazing kids the things i would look for in a same gender couple are the same i'd look for in an opposite gender couple. is the relationship stable? Do the adults respect each other? Do they have the resources to care for my child? Good luck, hon!

Honestly i would NOT. My whole reason for choosing adoption comes from my christian, conservative back ground as well as wanting to give my son a mother and a father...i would have been a single mom. I saw adoption as giving him what i couldn't. A stable home, financial succerity etc. I wouldn't even consider couples where the mom was going back to work right away b/c i could have raised my kid in day care...i wanted more for him.

I just saw this thread, I realize it's a little older, but I wanted to say that I did choose two daddy's for my son. When I was choosing I had a huge book of people in front of me, and going through they seemed interesting. When I got to the picture book stage of things (I was narrowed down to six couples) this couple seemed the most like me, especially the one guy. And they complement each other, both in life and in parenting. I couldn't ask for more for my son than he be raised by two strong male figures. The interesting thing for me and what always leaves me a little stymied is when people tell me I'll be my son's only mother. I guess that's technically true, but it's not why I chose them, and when I see him and someone comes up and asks me (they always ask the woman at the table) how much he weighs or whether he is eating real food yet, etc, I still have to turn to his dads'. I guess being the only woman in the picture, I still don't feel my role has changed than it would have if there was an amom.

Hello, I am pregnant and I am putting together my adoption plan. I have actually already connected with my adoptive parents, and they are a wonderful same-sex couple. I couldn't have found a more amazing family for my baby. Personally, I think that the political, religious, and moral views of the birthmother would play a big factor. Unfortunately not everyone is comfortable with same-sex relationships. I do not personally think that there is anything "better" about a traditional hetero couple than a same-sex couple, for me it is more about who they are as people. The two dads for my baby are the most amazing people I could hope to meet, and I chose them above many male-female couples because I connected with them and I truly felt that they would be the best parents for my baby.

I have read that some single expectant mothers like the idea of a dad or two dads for their baby because they will still be the only mother on the scene (that makes it sound a little "exclusive", but it wasn't really meant that way).

I would be willing to place my child in the care of two dads or two moms if they were the best adoptive parents I could find for the baby. All I would care about is if they could raise the baby in a healthy stable setting.

We're APs, but our son's Godfathers are a same sex couple. We thought if something should happen to us, they'd be the ones who'd raise him like we would.