Happy 18th Birthday my Son (3/23/1992)

Can you be sure your child got that letter or that the phone number wasn't blacked out? I'm just curious because in my situation, all corrspondence to my son or his parents went through an agency intermediary, and they surely would have censored any identifying or contact information had I included it in my letters. If you had direct communication with this letter, can you be sure your son's parents actually gave it to him? Just something to consider. I understand how you feel about not wanting to disrupt your son or his family's life. I think a lot of birth mother's feel that way. OTOH, I also know a lot of adoptees who express that they wish their birth moms would have reached out to them. Of course, you have to consider where your son is in his life, and 18, while of legal age, does not necessarily mean he would be ready to reconnect at this time. It's so hard to say with certainty or know what to do, but I woudn't automatically assume that your son has your phone number, even if you did put it in a letter. Did you go through an agency? Can you update your information with them in case your son goes to them for info?