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I am new here, but i am going to share my story in hopes of some advice.
I am 18 and a few weeks over a year ago i gave my daughter up for adoption to members of the birth fathers family. While I was pregnant, My parents kicked me out and I was forced to live with my boyfriend and his mother. Both my mother and my step dad were so hurt by the fact that i chose adoption, they did not want to be around me anymore. I chose adoption because I was so young, had no money, no bank account, no job, no license, car or family I felt I could trust. Everyone on my mothers side of the family is an alcoholic, and everyone on my fathers side of the family pretends i do not exist. After choosing a family all by myself through an agency and having my daughter my mother refused to sign the adoption papers and since i was underage i was forced to go home with my daughter and raise her until i found either a G.A.L. ( makes parental decisions at court based on a psychic evaluation of your own parents) or found a reason to convince my parents. After 2 weeks of being in my daughters presence my boyfriends aunt and uncle offered to raise my daughter and told me i would be a part of her life in every way.
Now, after i broke up with my boyfriend because of a strained relationship due to our child no one will talk to me, and i only have 3 pictures and a memory.
Since no one was supportive of my decision I did this completely alone and have had no counceling, help or even anyone to talk to about it. I miss daughter so much, and i think about her everyday and i am positive it is affecting my life and future. I have so much hurt, and anger that i can barely get through a day. I can never sleep at night, and i find myself crying all the time. I just tried to do what i felt was best for my child, and haven't gotten over it yet. I feel as if i am showing huge signs of PTSD, and i've been abusing both alcohol and other drugs lately. I have no idea what to do, or how to fix this deep ache inside.
what in the world could make this hurt less?
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After choosing a family all by myself through an agency
... i found either a G.A.L. ( makes parental decisions at court based on a psychic evaluation of your own parents) or found a reason to convince my parents
my boyfriends aunt and uncle offered to raise my daughter
i've been abusing both alcohol and other drugs lately. I have no idea what to do, or how to fix this deep ache inside.
what in the world could make this hurt less?
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see i chose an agency but because my mother wouldn't sign off i put my daughter into temporary custoday with my boyfriends family. after temporary custoday, we went to court and my parental rights are terminated.
I was able to convince my mother that since i would be involved in my daughters life that this would be the best choice, and yes she did sign off without a G.A.L.
Oddmom,
My parents also did not approve however i was not in their home my bf and i live by ourselfs. I know it was really difficult for me to not have their approval. When you went to court to relliquish your rights did you sign anything saying that you would get so many pictures a year. Like I get at least 6 pictures every 6 months. If you did sign something that says then you can take them to court and make them send you the pictures. I hope everything works out for the best.
If you would like someone to talk to you can send me PM
Sara :)
I'm so sorry for your pain. Is there a local church group that you could talk to? I hope you find some support and start taking care of yourself. You did the best you could with the information and resources you had at the time. Holidays are especially rough on those of us that are vulnerable. Take care and God Bless you.