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My children were fostered to adopt. We have had them legally for 2 years. Browsing MySpace the other day I found thier birth moms page. On here page are pictures that I've sent to her as part of her relinquishing her rights....
I am NOT happy about this!! Is there anything legally I can do to have her remove them? How would you feel? :hissy:
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We have no contact with her. We fostered to adopt and she relinquised her rights.... I have to send her photos and a letter annually. Other than that she knows nothing about me or where we live or even our names...
That being said... would you contact her our have Social Services contact her?
beachangel1970
We have no contact with her. We fostered to adopt and she relinquised her rights.... I have to send her photos and a letter annually. Other than that she knows nothing about me or where we live or even our names...
That being said... would you contact her our have Social Services contact her?
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Hey-can I give a little different thought?
Before you get really aggressive and threaten to never send pictures again and all that, could you just calmly ask (or have the social worker ask) for her to take them down??
Social networking is so huge for the current generation. It is very likely that she is excited to show off pictures of people she loves and sees no harm or danger in it, and isn't intentionally upsetting you. People post pictures on facebook of other people's children ALL. THE. TIME.
Perhaps you could give her the benefit of the doubt that if you ask or let her know you are uncomfortable, she will take them down. If not, then go from there, but give her a chance frist.
beachangel1970
My children were fostered to adopt. We have had them legally for 2 years. Browsing MySpace the other day I found thier birth moms page. On here page are pictures that I've sent to her as part of her relinquishing her rights....
I am NOT happy about this!! Is there anything legally I can do to have her remove them? How would you feel? :hissy:
NRNF
What good will be served by having her remove pictures of her children? The reality of every adopted child is that they have two mothers and fathers. Adoptees can be attached to both sets of parents without feeling that they must sacrifice one for another. Putting them in that position will cause serious harm to them and the family
This is a really interesting thread. We just adopted our DD who was born in june and will be finalized in january. I am on FB with the Bmom, Bdad, and some of the other Bfamily. We have an open adoption with them and they come to our house on average once to twice a month. Our Bmom always takes pics of her and our DD and post them on facebook. I never even questioned it. It has always been a little sad to see her profile pic of her and our DD but I never had any bad or negative feelings about her posting pics. I know she wants to show her off to her friends and family on how cute and big she is. I really don't mind at all. The only thing at first that bothered me is having her call her by her name that she gave her at birth and called herself mommy at first. I mentioned it to our social worker that it bothered me and she talked to our Bmom and gave her a fake situation (I didn't want her to know I told on her) and she stopped immediately. I guess you just have to do what is comfortable for you and your family. This is definatly a new era with computers and technology and it's not lilke it used to be. We are going to our bfamilies house this saturday for their families christmas and I'm sure there will be alot of pics taken and posted. Anyway good luck!
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