Biological Uncle

I think you have a right to feel however you want to feel. But I also think that a child can't ever have too much family. If the adoptive parents are willing and you get to the point that you are ready to meet the child, it may be a really great thing. There are a lot of adoptees on this site that would love to have had contact from their biological family throughout the years.

Do you want to know or know your other nieces and nephews? How you feel about the above should provide you with the answer... As an adoptee I have two families - the one I was born into and the one I was adopted into. There is no way that you can erase history it is set in stone. There is no way to replace - simply add too. Kind regards,Dickons

I'm divorced, however my husband had two children, two different mothers. I watched the children juggling having 2.5 families each. They each had their bio-mom, their bio-mom's relatives, their dad's relatives, their sibling's moms and relatives, and me and my family. It wasn't like either child could be separated from what went on in their sibling's families.I can say that parenting under those circumstances was a complete zoo. It was tough for the children. Normal children have 2 sets of grandparents (one each for mom and dad). But how can you, as a child, be the adorable little grandchild to 6 or 8 sets of grandparents? (More if any of the 3 bio-parents have new partners? More if any grandparents have divorced and remarried, which was the case here.) Everyone wanted to see them, to gift things to them, on and on. Children can't be divided up into even 3 pieces at Christmas easily. It's difficult for the child. I know, both children talked to me about it. I tried to give them a safe haven for that.I think if you haven't lived trying to juggle multiple families all wanting a piece of a child, it's hard to imagine how difficult it is for all concerned. I think realizing that the family this child has is likely super-in-love with him, is way more than sufficient to raise him well, and has plenty of family members and friends to love him... is realistic, and an honorable choice to make. And deserving of respect. I think trusting the adoptive family to do a great job is a reasonable choice. 3 of my cousins were adopted, the trust those families put in ours was justified, they had great lives.I think if people are attracted to openness, fine, if not, fine, we all have our decisions to make.