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yes, my daughter wasnt in an orphanage, but was severely neglected and abused at home in the first 3 yrs of life and then went to an overcrowded foster home, where her needs were minimumly met. The RAD develops in the earliest years, some confine it specifically to the first year, and can impact the child through out life. The lack of primary caregiver through out her first 7 years of life, but specifically the first 3, created the RAD.
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In my personal experience, my children from orphanges were affected by their early neglect and did suffer from AD but it didn't seem the same as my kids adopted from foster care who were diagnosed RAD. It's tough to explain and part of it might simply be they weren't taught how to make false allegations and manipulate so much as just to simply survive. And while they trusted no adults, they would not walk by a child needing help without helping. Now that just might be the two I adopted's personalities.
Both also had language processing issues that I believe stem from early neglect and one specialized school I spoke to said the majority of kids they treat were internationally adopted.
One is better, the other is 19 and still steals daily as he did from the first day his first adoptive parents met him at 6.5. He's in and out of jail and refuses to permanatly live anywhere.
Edited to add that not all foster kids manipulate and make false allegations, My AD kids from foster care did and had a long, long history of doing so documented in their files.
@Miss LucyJoy, i kind of understand why your kid from Foster care are diagnosed with RAD, some criteria for RAD are like diffuse attachmetns as manisfest by indiscriminate sociability with maered inability to exhibit appropriate selective attachments, persistent disregared of the child's basic emotional needs for comfort, stimulation and affection, repeated changes of primary caregive that prevent fromation of stable attachements.
Really appreicated your time and pure hearted replies, i respect you as an amazing mother of those children. you made a huge different in their life!!! without you they won't be the same !! adore you ^_^
I just always want to know that if institutional life has impact on child's life, and if it's related to some deficient progress after adoption.
Thank you again for you precious time
Life in an orphanage definitely does attribute to the development of RAD. According to our therapists and the research I've been able to do on my own, the brain development of an infant is directly related to the external stimuli provided. A child in a loving, caring, nurturing environment learns security and trust, which then form the basis of learning where they fit in their family and the world. A child in poor circumstances, whether neglect from parents or in an orphanage with too few primary caregivers, isn't able to build that sense of security or trust. Instead, their brains develop coping mechanisms to take care of themselves. Those coping devices are the foundations of RAD -- when a child under the age of 2 has had to learn to fend for herself by the time she's adopted into a loving home it's very difficult to turn those lessons off and start learning the trust and security her brain missed out on. Her brain has moved on to learning other skills and it takes quite a bit of effort to rewire her neurotransmitters so she can let her adoptive parents actually be parents to her.
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