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My story is long and complicated with my bmom, and I don't think I will ever have the closure I need. I need to find my father though, I need to know if everything she has told me was a lie. If my extended family was right and what she says happened didn't really happen. I found the man I think is my father, however I have little information and I don't know how to go about finding out. The hard part.. He is in Jail, Supposedly the man who is supposed to be my father has been in out out since I was born. How do I find out if this man is my father, it's not like I could call and ask him. Some one please help me, or give me some advice.
You can write him a letter. Don't give out a lot of personal information. Just confirm who he is. I would suggest using an address such as a post office box as a return address for safety sake. Give him your birthmother's name, no address, city you believe was your point of origin and dates.
Be careful. Are there any of his family members you can find who are pro-social? That maybe a safer way. Sadly you may find this person is not someone you want in your life now. That maybe why your birthmother is lying. She has some concern for your safety or perhaps some shame around having been involved with him.
It's worth a try to send a letter to the jail.
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