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Sorry if this post may sound like rambling, but I think this is the place to do it... I have been lurking here for years, I think I've only posted a message one other time. I'm hoping some of you might be able to relate to what I am going through... I have 4 bio children. 17, 11, 5 and 2. Had some trouble having them, but with some medical help and ALOT of prayer I've had all my children. I am now 41, and for the past 3+ years I have been thinking alot about foster/adopt. I went to an orientation 3 yrs ago. 6 months ago I went to all the required classes. I have not had a homestudy though. I look at the photo listings all the time and I think about these kids who have no homes/family and how heartbroken they must be. I would love to foster and maybe adopt one or two girls ages 7-9 or 12-15.
It's hard for some to understand because they automatically think I've had 4 children, what is my problem? But, my heart just goes out to them. I pray all the time, I do volunteer helping out with school supplies/Christmas functions, etc.. for the foster children. See-my husband is not ready, he doesn't share the same feelings I do. He is SLOWLY getting there, but still says no. So.... all I can do is pray..I can't go any further.
Please dont respond about how it's so important he be on board, etc.. I know that. Another thing, I do battle fear alot like what could happen if I was actually able to do this foster thing someday. I feel a little uncomfortable about sharing so much of my life with the state. You know? Sorry for rambling. I just dont' have anyone to "talk" to except for God, and don't get me wrong, he's more than enough. It's just hard for me to understand why I feel something so strongly, but if God is in it, wouldn't my husband be too? Anyone else deal with this? :thanks:
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One of the things I did to prepare to foster or adopt was to be a CASA. You might like seeing the system from another side because you can see more of how information is being viewed and used. It's very rewarding work, and when your hubby is ready, you'll be more ready.
Continue to pray. All in God's time!
The CASA idea I think is *great*. It would be quite an effective way to learn more about the system. my4kidz, have you read the book "I Speak for This Child" by Gay Coulter? I just finished it. She's a CASA in Florida, and urges people to become CASAs. One can truly help a child that way.
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