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Originally Posted By VicSome seem to be wondering if they would love a biochild more than an adopted one. I have 2 biosons (24 and 26), a stepdaughter (16) and 2 small adopted children. I feel as much love for the two little ones as I did for the first two; the driving force is that these are children who rely on me as their mom and I have to be there for them. (My son's bmom was 14 when he was born, so even if she hadn't vanished she would be more like a big sister). My older sons adore their little siblings. My stepdaughter, who just joined us 6 months ago, I respect and admire, but she's more like a guest in the home, a lovely, energetic, somewhat flaky guest; but she has her own mom who she will see again. As long as some kids need homes, adoption is a great solution.
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Originally Posted By CynicI agree with your statement, "As long as some kids need homes, adoption is a great solution". There are too many children waiting to be adopted but are not given homes, because people wishing to adopt only want a child. Those are the children that needs homes the most and adoption would be a great solution, but they just don't meet the criteria for the long list of potential adoptive parents.
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Originally Posted By BonnieHi, Cynic. I know and agree with you that there are too many adoptable children out there that need homes, but do not receive them because of the "caucasian, infant only" syndrome. How do you feel about adoptive parents who really and truly search their hearts and realize that they do not have the means to raise a special needs child, or do not feel equipped to raise a child of another race/culture? I do not agree with those that want a child "to look like them." But I am curious as to your opinion.
Originally Posted By CynicJust because a woman chooses to freely place her child for adoption does NOT mean that she does NOT want to parent. There is an enormous difference. I think that you are trying to state that their are birthmothers that have placed and their baby was not stolen and they were not "coerced". If you bother to ask birthmothers why they freely chose to place their child, the response is often that they thought it was the best thing for the child and NOT that they did not want the child.It is my belief that the women that have placed their child with the belief that "it was the best thing for the child", were given more information and not persuaded to place their baby, then they would decide to parent.