I wish I'd known then how much it would hurt me to have to help a child grieve for someone who was so abusive to them.
I agree. I understood to an extent... because my parents divorced, I love my step dad, and my father is useless but I would still find myself defending him.
It is SO hard to love a child so much, know that you want them to heal, do everything to help them, and despite the abuse, neglect, and wrongness their birth families did... they are the ones that get put on a pedestal!
It's very hard to hear my 6 year old defend her BM's actions. I know one day she will understand more and we can talk bluntly with her... but right now it is hard!
