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Two days ago, I found my Half brother that I've been searching for for several years, I didn't contact him directly, instead contacted the adoptive mom because of not knowing if he knew he was adopted or not.She said that she talked him about me and he decided not to have any communication yet. I thought that this wouldn't bother me but it kinda does. I have all these questions I wanna ask him since it's been almost 18 years. I guess for now I have to patient.
As for my search for my Half sister, I haven't had any luck I have the birthday,the name that my mom gave, the birth fathers name and the city and state where she was born. It was a closed adoption. -sigh- Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks,
Kim
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I know it's hard that your half brother doesn't want contact right now. Try to remember, though, that you've been searching for him for a while -- you are emotionally ready for contact. From his perspective, this hit him out of the blue. He'll need time to process his emotions and figure out what he needs. Maybe he'll decide he wants contact at some point, or maybe he won't, depending on his own personality and his views on adoption. But it's not surprising that he needs at least some time to figure it all out. Besides, you mentioned that he's almost 18, so that's a very tough and eventful time in his life, with a lot going on and a lot of decisions for him to be making about his future. He may just need to put this off until some of the stress from the rest of it lessens.
Good luck with finding your half sister. Remember in your searching, though, that there's a very good chance she doesn't know her birth name or the names of her bmother or bfather. Therefore, if you're looking for someone who's searching on that information, you'll only find yourself.
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