My situation (Kinda Long)

Hi I'm Mike I'm new to this forum. I would like to share my story with you guys. I found my biological mothers family about a year ago. My mothers two sisters told me my mother died back in 2005 of lung cancer. Which was a disappointment but what can I do?. So anyway I asked my older aunt about my biological father and she had told me his name was Howie. And he lived in a neighborhood in Brooklyn NY not far from my aunts and mother. This was in the early days of contact with my older aunt. My older aunt said she would ask around the neighborhood for me about my father. Well long story short His name isn't Howie no one knows anyone by that name. In my adoption records theirs a note saying he is 5'0 White and Jewish and year younger then my mother. I spoke to my bithmothers aunt who actually found the adoption lawyer and got the wheels turning. She is a very religous jew but come to find out he isn't jewish. And he's not from the area my aunt first told me about. In addition my aunt gave me my mothers best friends phone number I tryed it a few times to no avail she didn't return any of my calls. My younger aunt met my father on one or two occasions when I pressed her for more details she said leave it alone. From what I was told about my mother she had a hard life. She did drugs and was homeless after my biological grandparents died. My oldest aunt said she was misguided. My biological family was disfunctional from all accounts from my older aunt. My aunts said every year around my birthday my mother would do really self distructive things. I was told my mother dated my father for six months to a year. When my mother found out she was pregnant she was six to seven months along in her pregnancy. So in reality she didn't admidt it to herself. So my mother went to tell my father she was pregnant and they got into a huge fight and that was it. I've been trying to find him from day one. By the way this was all in the early 80's. My mother was twenty when she had me and my father was 18-19 when he got her pregnant. Please feel free to coment.