How would you feel?

Honestly, I would feel terrible!I am an aparent, and I can NOT imagine doing that to my child. A very sad situation......I am so very sorry, for everyone involved.

I am wondering how they would explain stopping contact, they are adamant against her knowing, she told my daughter that they couldnt be sisters, they are full bsisters biologically. How can they make that decision for her to not acknowledge her existence. My daughter is so so close to telling her, I advised against it because I know amom will go after me legally.

I'd also like to hear adoptees' responses, as this is exactly what I'm up against as a bmom hoping for reunion.

Who told your daughter that they couldn't be sisters? Was that amom? Does your child even know she is adopted? Frankly, I'd let my daughter approach her sister through social media once your relinquished child is 18. Take the APs out of it altogether. Some people. . .. :grr:

I still don't understand what they are hoping to gain by not telling her she's adopted. It's just such an antiquated process really, and you'd think by 1994 parents were being advised that adoption is not to be a secret? At any rate, when she finds out, she'll be hacked as heck at her parents. I would be. I still wouldn't be the one to tell her though, or your daughter. This isn't something you do on FB or in a "btw, your parents never told you, but you were adopted" way. If you plan on contacting her at 18 and she doesn't know, I strongly urge you to get a therapist involved because otherwise you'll cause even more damage to the situation than the secrecy of adoption in general.

I'm a bit confused about the whole sister amom thing, but if I for one never knew I was adopted and 2 found out that my 1st mom tried to stay in contact but my aparents closed the adoption, I'd probably LOSE IT! I just thought about it, my parents probably would hope I found out after not living in the house because frankly thats means for a butt kickin.... okay, not really but a mental one at least and a good tellin off! aahhh I'm heated for you daughter now! Tell your raised daughter to wait until her sister turns 18, because at that point there is NOTHING(other then putting her into the witness protection program) they can legally do about her SISTER contacting her. If anything, she NEEDS her medical history, it is her RIGHT to know where she came from! How dare her aparents do this! :grr:

amom told my daughter that they couldnt be sisters because legally there were not sisters. My adopted daughter has not been told anything, everything they told her is a lie.