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My son was born in a different state, and I am still waiting on ICPC to go home. Brit could not happen on day 8, so now I am trying to figure out what to do. My rabbi suggested having a brit milah here and a naming when I return home. The mohel here wants to do the naming as part of the brit. If that happens, his godparents will not be there, my family will not be there, and none of my community will be there; I really don't like that idea. I could wait until we get home (and he will still be under a month old, so it's not like it's a huge difference) but I know should be done as soon as possible if it can't be the 8th day. Either way we will still go to the mikveh when we get home. Anyone else been in this situation? What did you do?
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I think we actually have a plan at this point. We're doing the bris here; even though we couldn't do the 8th day I do want to stick with the as soon as possible part. The rabbi here has been fantastic, and he and his wife will be there and he's been connecting me with some other folks who may also come. We'll do a naming at home with the conversion (they're not making me wait for finalization). I think we'll actually be able to do it on his 8th day with me, which has some nice symbolic value to me. I think part of it is my nerves, and wanting the support around me. People here have been so welcoming and supportive and kind, though, that I think I feel okay about it. I still wish I didn't have to go through it and it could just be magically done, but that's not going to happen anywhere. In some ways I am looking forward to it though; ritual really does make things "real" for me, and this has been such a whirlwind it's hard to believe sometimes.
Yeah, I get the traumatic part. It was last night (8th day with me, coincidentally, so there's some nice symbolism there); I cried hysterically the whole time and couldn't watch. He was not impressed with being handed to a stranger or having his diaper removed, but that's about it. I was really moved after it was over, and so glad we went through it (still have the mikveh and naming when we get home), but really glad it's over.
Thanks for the support!
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Remember that there is an excellent option.
You can have the baby circumcised without ritual in the hospital, and then do "Hatafat Dam Brit" ("the drop of blood of the covenant) when you get home, after the circumcision site is healed and when the relatives can come to the ceremony.
Hatafat Dam Brit refers to a ceremony that is performed when an already circumcised non-Jew converts to Judaism, or when a Jewish family adopts an already circumcised non-Jewish child. Just as with a brit milah, the mohel comes to the parents' home, but instead of performing a circumcision, the mohel draws a drop of blood from the circumcision site. The ritual blessings are recited, the Hebrew name is announced, the parents and grandparents may take part in the ceremony, and a party follows.
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