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I posted our situation a few months ago where I was concerned because we cannot afford to go and visit E's Firstmom and I got some really good suggestions about how to tell her. She was very understanding. Since then she has moved 5 hours closer to us and now lives only about 4 hours away. My husband and I are considering asking her if she and E's two sisters would like to come and stay with us for a few days. Has anyone else done this? We have the room in our home so that would not be an issue, she would have her own bedroom and bathroom.
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Our situation is different, as we adopted our son from foster care and have no contact with his first mom. However, we do have regular contact with an adult brother. When he visits, he does stay with us and participates in activities with our family. I know in a lot of ways it's hard on him, but in the long run I think it's been good for everyone involved. He gets to see our day to day family operation and I think that makes him feel better about the situation. And we and our son get to have those casual conversations that really fill the history void in his life.
We had had almost all of my 3 kids birthparents and siblings stay here. It is not a problem at all and its a great way for them to see how your family is as a whole. The only reason I wouldn't be open to it is if you didn't get along. We do have one birthparent who is very disrespectful and so they aren't welcome to stay in our home, but my own sister or dad wouldn't be welcome if they treated my like that either... All in all, if you have no other reason than you think it might be weird, I say go for it - you might really enjoy it!