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My dH and I are wanting to adopt a foster child that is placed in my MIL foster home. The case manager verbally agreed that child could be placed into our home prior to adoption. Two weeks go by and we tried calling the CM every day of the 2nd week to get the confirmed paperwork. CM calls MIL on a Friday and acted angry at her because child wasn't officially placed with us. Come to find out there is a new law that has passed that downsizes the amount of foster children or bio/step/grandchildren etc. that live in the home. If you have 5 (or more in my case) children in your home they cannot place a child. The law went from max of 8 down to 5. It also affects therapuetic(sp) homes as well. I did see some other laws out there while doing research to see if there were any loopholes that would allow child to be placed with us. I do pray what I found works. We are already so very bonded that child calls us momma and daddy. I pray it doesn't affect us from adopting her but pre termination placement was not going to be allowed.
Just wanted to see if this is affecting anybody else out there. I think it is crazy considering the NEED for foster homes. We were wanting to help the system out.
Needless to say I have been crying like crazy because i feel that one of my children have been taking away from me even if it is only temporarily.
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Well that's good news!! Is that Mary you were talking to? I haven't talked to her since she went to the meeting to learn more about the new laws. I hate the idea of our home closing completely knowing there are 2 siblings currently living in home w/biomom... Silly me, I need to be the back up plan just in case..
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ironically enough, i just got a call for 5 siblings that i had to turn down, because a, there was not enough room here for them, especially since i am only licensed for 6 and have 2 of my own, and b, i don't take children older than the ones i have and 4 out of 5 of the siblings were.
i figure that rule will definitely be bent when its convenient for THEM, lol....just not for us. this is the first call i have had in months. its frustrating because in hamilton county, i can no longer be contacted by marion county directly, it has to go thru them first. *sighs* which means they can selectively decide who to call and when based on whatever "preferred" list they have.
this whole thing and all the new changes....really grates.
icekitty
ironically enough, i just got a call for 5 siblings that i had to turn down, because a, there was not enough room here for them, especially since i am only licensed for 6 and have 2 of my own, and b, i don't take children older than the ones i have and 4 out of 5 of the siblings were.
i figure that rule will definitely be bent when its convenient for THEM, lol....just not for us. this is the first call i have had in months. its frustrating because in hamilton county, i can no longer be contacted by marion county directly, it has to go thru them first. *sighs* which means they can selectively decide who to call and when based on whatever "preferred" list they have.
this whole thing and all the new changes....really grates.
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LibbyHawkins
Is that true of all counties, do you know? They have to go through your county of residence???
and i have heard thru the grapevine from a dcs atty that it was exactly that. the rules were changed to keep certain types of kids out of hamilton county, but its nothing i was ever able to prove. don't know if its a race thing, don't know if it's a class thing, but there is definitely something up.
which is stupid if you ask me, because the bulk of these kids are not coming from the lap of luxury here. these are kids coming from broken homes. we're not dealing with kids born with a silver spoon in their mouth, so what exactly is the issue???:(
I talked to my CW about this quite a bit during last visit. I have some mixed feelings about the changes.
I foster for Marion Co so you would think we would be crazy full all the time ... but that is not the case. We've been licensed 2 years. Our home is large enough for 6 now 5 but we have never had more than 2 at any given time and have set empty for months at a time. I stay at home full time.
We have found that there are several large homes that have been fostering longer and they get most of the calls. So there are homes with space that sit empty or have openings but are not known as well with room. If newer homes are not used how will we ever get to be known as good homes.
She said that DCS was aware of that and the changes could help even things out.
Sibling groups will be excluded from this rule. If the home has room to take whole group then it will be allowed.
Homes that already are over new numbers will be grandfathered in and no children will be moved.
There is now a new standardized amount of time for visits which could make visits a full time job with more than 5 kids. EX a child 9 mths would have a minimum of 6 hours a week over 2 days ... so it would be either two 3 hour visits or three 2 hour visits. Which could mean if you have 5 kids all with plan of RU, visits could be juggling 30 hours a week and if both parents get visits seperatly double that. This scenerio alone may help those understand the limit on number of kids.
I once had a sibling group of 2 that bmom got three 2 hour visits a week with both kids, FS had three 2 hour visits with his bdad and FD had three 2 hour visits with her bdad. So with just these 2 kids we were juggling 18 hours of manditory visits a week broken up over 9 visits. It was grueling and the kids had no routine.
I know that some of the 5 include biokids and some kids don't get visits with bio.
Just though I would share my CW and my convo. CW is concerned with changes and resourses also. Only time will tell. I'm excited about the fact that I may have the opportunity be used as a resource more. I want to be a fosterparent and love it even the RU process but I still sometimes feel like I am trying be one even after being licensed for 2 years.
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Dalynn, was this your licensing worker that said they go to certain homes? I'd love to know who. I think that Gail and maybe Paula are the only people in licensing who have been there longer than we have. I went to their training on The Placement Process. Officially, they are supposed to put all open families on a spreadsheet with the number of openings, ages, etc. And go from one family to the next in order. No preferential treatment.
We set open for months last time and found our own placement(family member). Supposedly it doesn't matter that we are a mile over the county line in Morgan Co., but I wonder. We're back to being ignored again. Last time we were waiting for a placement our licensing worker ignored my emails. She is always replies within a couple of hours, but it's been over a week and she hasn't answered my email. That's not like her. Oh well.
Today is the last day.