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My little guy is a month old tomorrow (still can't believe it!), and I just sent the first set of letter/ pictures to his birth parents about 5 minutes ago. I'm now regretting what I said in the letter. I know this is just nerves, but I keep thinking of things that I should have put in or could have described better. I think I obsessed over it almost as much as I did over my profile, and now I'm having just about the same feelings I did when that went in - that it's not good enough. I'm so worried about disappointing them, and I think it's hard because all contact is through the agency, so the feedback is a little different. Just need some perspective or reassurance or something. Anybody else been there?
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I agonized over every single update during the first year (our adoption was semi-open at that time). I do believe that there's nothing wrong with saying something along the lines of "we're nervous about giving you want you want" in the update. Just be honest. I'm sure they're anxious, too.
We wound up opening our adoption completely at the end of the first year, so it's become like talking to any family member. And we're 10 years in now, and things kind of morph over the years.
Good luck! And congratulations on your little guy!
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