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well i been thinking for a long time im adopted im 18 now and really need a 100% honest answer i kno my mom she would never tell me if i was but acts really weird bout it if i bring it up i live in nj i dont much but i think its like a thing i cant get my original birth cert if i want enless i go to court but i need any advice ware to go to wat to go to online would help or anything at all on how to find out for sure if im adopted its been eating away at me for somtime not knowin for sure but i have no clue ware to go from here to find out help me please :(
I'm not sure about the NJ laws, but in IN, I was able to request Non-ID through the state. I had to give my name, b'day, aparents names and they sent back the info. I suppose if you were adopted, that would be one way to find out. Have you considered approaching any other family members? Have you seen pictures of your Mom when she was pregnant, or anything like that?
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I'm not sure about the NJ laws, but in IN, I was able to request Non-ID through the state. I had to give my name, b'day, aparents names and they sent back the info. I suppose if you were adopted, that would be one way to find out. Have you considered approaching any other family members? Have you seen pictures of your Mom when she was pregnant, or anything like that?
i cant find n e pictures at all of my mom pregnant with me theres no baby book or n e thing im nervous to go to a family member bc if im wrong im going to look very stupid also if theres a secret like that in the family they wouldnt tell me i askd my cousin whos like 18 years older then me i was like soo do you remember when my mom was pregnant with me and he didnt answer for a lil bit and hes like na not really i was to young but he was round 18 how would he be to young??? he had nothin to say about it an i was at the hospital and they askd my mom questions she had somthin i can remember wat it was but it complicated having kids n she told the doctor she got that operation ware she cant have kids 20 years ago and im 18...im hoping she just got her years mixd up but my problem is idk how to request information or ware i even go to to request it or what to look for im completely clueless on what to do im not to good at this stuff
On this site, go to the search and reunion forum and scroll down a bit. The states and their laws are listed. Of course, you could always have been adopted from a different state as well. Not that common, but could happen.
I copied this from the forum I mentioned. I should have thought of that to start with! Sorry. On summer break. My brain is disengaged.
Welcome to the Search and Reunion Message Board!
Note: New Jersey has a “Confidential Intermediary” search program that will locate and contact birth relatives. See information below:
State of New Jersey Confidential Intermediary: Confidential intermediary services are provided through the registry.
State of New Jersey Adoption Registry: The following persons may use the registry: adopted adults, adoptive parents of minor adoptee, and birth parents. At the request of an adopted adult, or of a minor adoptee with permission from his or her adoptive parents, the registry will conduct a search for birth relative(s) who have not registered.
Contact:
New Jersey Department of Human Services (for public agency adoptions only)
Division of Youth and Family Services
Adoption Registry Coordinator
PO Box 717
Trenton, NJ 08625
(609) 984-6800
(609) 292-8816
For adoption related information and records:
New Jersey Department of Human Services
Division of Youth and Family Services
50 East State Street, 5th Floor, CN 717
Trenton, NJ 08625-0717
(609) 984-2380
Fax: (609) 984-5449
Non-Identifying Information: Adopted adults, adoptive parents of a minor adoptee, or birth parents can receive non-identifying information through the registry.
Identifying Information: Identifying information is provided through a registry.
Original Birth Certificate: An adoptee must petition the court in which the adoption was finalized to receive.
Providing Information: Cards and letters may be provided to the registry to be given to the intended party upon that party's registration.
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i think the easiest thing to know for sure and the fastest way would be dna test right??? ill just save up and get one of them i think that would b easiest for now
It would be the most definite, but for the cost of the stamp you can fill out the state paperwork, wait 6 weeks, and see what they have to say.
Not that I'd give up on a DNA test...
Another thought, do you know the hospital you were born at? "If" you're not an adoptee, you have the right to get your medical records. Request the ones of your birth.
i would need help with that idk ware i would even get paper work from or ware to send it lol im reeally new to dealing with this kind of stuff and paperwork
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I know nothing about DNA testing, but if I were trying to find something out, this is where I'd start:
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The lab suggested in the article is a good, credible DNA testing lab.
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ok i have talked to my mom what papers or anything would be able to prove that she could show me that would prove that she is my biological mother?? she says she will show me proof but soo far alls she can say is idk wat would prove it
You're not even sure you're adopted? But you DO know your birthdate, how about your birthplace? I can't imagine anyone not being willing to tell you that much! Even if you saw your birth certificate it would be a new one, replacing the original, with the parents you know replacing the originals, if it's even true you're adopted. The date and place should remain the same, however.
It could be some other circumstance that your mom finds awkward and you could still be her natural child, so don't jump to conclusions. All kinds of weird family secrets out there!
Try reassuring her that no answer could make you love her less, but that you need to know the truth, whatever it is. And I'm sure that is true.
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