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I believe I have found my birth mother. I had a wonderful friend who was also a birth mother who had a daughter within a couple days of my birth in the same hospital and gave her daughter up for adoption. She hired someone to look for her daughter and asked that they look for my birth mother. I got the information a while ago when the internet was not as wonderful as it is now, so I set the information aside and today I again found it. I decided to do a search and found that the person I believe to be my birth mother is on Facebook. She has listed that she is hoping to adopt and has lots of room for children in her home. I would love to make contact with her and at least get an updated medical history but I am really not sure how to start however I believe I will send her an email on Facebook, but from the looks of it, she isn't on that frequently. Any advice on what I should ask and how to ask it would be greatly appreciated. I have been looking at sample letters and I don't like the trying to renew our friendship approach so any other ideas or suggestions would be very appreciated. Thank you so much.
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Have you sent her a message yet? When I've been in this situation I've kept it very simple and asked if she was from a certain town (if you know the town she lived in when you were born) or even be a little bolder and say you heard you may be related to a person with the same name she has. If she's your birth mom she'll know where this is leading. If she put on facebook she's looking to adopt chances are she will love to hear from you! I did send a couple of messages to biological relatives who were also not on facebook very often. For one of them, a biological 1st cousin, I was finally able to find a phone number and call. It was a little bit scary but she was very glad to hear from me and has sent family photos ect. Good luck! Keep us updated! :)
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I believe I have found my birth mother. I had a wonderful friend who was also a birth mother who had a daughter within a couple days of my birth in the same hospital and gave her daughter up for adoption. She hired someone to look for her daughter and asked that they look for my birth mother. I got the information a while ago when the internet was not as wonderful as it is now, so I set the information aside and today I again found it. I decided to do a search and found that the person I believe to be my birth mother is on Facebook. She has listed that she is hoping to adopt and has lots of room for children in her home. I would love to make contact with her and at least get an updated medical history but I am really not sure how to start however I believe I will send her an email on Facebook, but from the looks of it, she isn't on that frequently. Any advice on what I should ask and how to ask it would be greatly appreciated. I have been looking at sample letters and I don't like the trying to renew our friendship approach so any other ideas or suggestions would be very appreciated. Thank you so much.
I have done a lot of first contact and reunions for people. If she doesn't check her facebook don't send it there. You could send a letter but she really needs to hear your voice to get the tone of what you are saying. I only had one Bmom deny she was who she was, but she came around.
It is the hardest phone call you will ever make. Just pressing that last button is crazy, but just tell her your name and your birthdate after you ask if she can speak privately. Don't go into the hardship of your adoption just tell her how happy you are to have found her. Keep it light. Tell her your life story, jobs kids. You'll do fine.
Good luck kiddo.:banana:
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