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my son was adopted in may 2010. I went through an agency that will remained un named. I love the adoptive parents and keep in contact but the agency the second i signed dropped me like a hot potato...i didnt expect anything but at least someone to talk to or vent my feelings maybe?? I don't know im on here to branch out and find another agency or maybe a private lawyer i have no idea im truly trying to figure out what im going to do this time around. Also please don't judge that i find myself in the same position i was in 2010. thanks. Also this pregnancy has me feeling like this guy >:sick:
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I am an adoptive mom, not a first mom, but I wanted to tell you that I think you deserve an agency or attorney who will support you after placement and for as long as you need it. I know my son's first mom has had lots and lots of conversations with the social worker since his placement and I love that she has that support and care. Maybe you could ask the first moms (birthmoms) here for private messages about what agencies they recommend or don't recommend. Do you know if the adoptive parents of your first son would be willing to adopt this child? Would you want them to if they are? If so, maybe you can find a counselor not connected to an agency and then just use an attorney for the adoption process? Regardless, please don't feel badly about yourself for finding yourself in this situation. It happens, and there is no reason to feel ashamed and beat yourself up over it. That won't help you OR your baby at all. Hugs
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That is good question, i don't think i would ask them to again. They adopted another lil one soon after he was born. If i had to explain why i have reservations i truly couldn't is that weird? Im lost in my own thoughts but i am looking at several options just trying to get a feel for what is what between an agency or lawyer. I guess there isnt alot i can do at this point being so early. For the most part people say oh contact me when your around 20 weeks. I understand the reserves but i dont know...